Borderline narcissistic relationship

Borderline personality disorder is a psychological disorder that causes problems in the way of thinking and perception of the person, feelings towards people and bilateral relations. Borderlines feel worthless because they cannot get the love and attention they need from their parents in their early childhood. They look for someone who will meet this love and attention in their later years. When they meet a narcissist, they feel like princesses at the beginning of the relationship.
In the face of this interest that makes you feel, interested, surprises and suffocates with gifts, they easily become attached to it and after a while they become attached to it. At first, they feel very good, but after a while they always start to give of themselves out of fear of losing. They find logical reasons for all kinds of negative behaviors of the narcissist and start blaming themselves. The narcissist uses this very well. He makes him do whatever he wants, but he never gives that value to him. Borderlines are the same.
They do everything to get that value and love as they did in their childhood. While they cling to the narcissistic partner who does not value them, they quickly devalue the lover who values ​​them in their eyes.
A person who gives love to them easily never attracts their attention. Borderlines are the most prone to establishing relationships with narcissists. It can even be said that the two parties attract each other like magnets. They are usually the ones who communicate most easily in virtual or real environments. they are individuals, and they feel it somehow. A relationship that confronts the borderline and the narcissistic is one of the most toxic relationships possible.
Because this relationship is, so to speak, “fire and gunpowder.” Borderline individuals “look for a container in which they can take their shape”.
“I am very good to you, come, they give the air of “to my caring arms very strongly. The back of this image is blank, but the borderline does not want to notice it. The narcissist is attracted to the fact that his partner is constantly jealous of himself. In this way, he can easily feel his bad feelings on the borderline.
burdens their partner. A normal individual cannot carry that burden. A normal relationship does not cut both, it feels boring. Because they seek adrenaline.
The narcissistic critic is prone to borderline self-blame. In every conflict situation, the narcissist somehow convinces the bodyline that it is their fault. Over time, the borderline, whose self-esteem is already low, is crushed under the sense of guilt and becomes more submissive to the narcissist.
he begins to become an individual who is completely shaped by him, who is an extension of him. Boderline’s biggest fear is abandonment. She makes a pathetic effort to prevent it. But when she sees that this effort has no value in the eyes of the narcissist, this time she tries to “devalue” her. She often leaves her partner and returns to him just as often. It feeds the ego of the narcissist who thinks that the borderline will never leave him. He continues to devalue him. Borderline therapy often comes down to abandonment. But if the borderline, whose biggest fear is to be abandoned, finds a lover who will not leave one day, she will be the first to leave.