Anger is one of the basic emotions in human nature. It is healthy as long as it can be controlled. If anger gets out of control and becomes destructive, it can cause significant problems in one’s life.
What kind of physical and psychological changes occur in a person in case of anger?
Physical changes such as headache, stomach discomfort, respiratory problem, nervous system disorders in the person in case of anger; Psychological disorders such as anxiety and depression can be seen.
Is violence the only way to express anger?
While anger and anger are actually internal emotions, they can turn into destructive behaviors such as aggression. It is ideal to be aware of the cause of anger in order not to show aggressive behavior. Knowing why we are angry means that we can actually control our anger.
How to deal with the problems before the outburst of anger?
Injustice, frustration, emotional hurt, disappointment, threats, being attacked are among the reasons that are in life and lead to anger. Anger is an emotion that can be experienced from a very mild reaction to rage. Human learns to control this underlying emotion with social factors and learning process. Changing your thoughts and perspective will also change your feelings. In anger management, acting by thinking about the end, giving yourself time to think, acting in control, getting away from the environment, distracting your mind by thinking about something else, venting your anger in a way that will cause less problems and relaxation exercises can be helpful.
Does suppressing anger have negative consequences?
Yes, various physical ailments, anxiety and depression can be seen as a result of suppressing anger.
How should a person act when there are outbursts of anger, aiming to intervene and calm the atmosphere?
At first, he should be calm, try to make the environment safe, and remove the person who has an outburst of anger from the environment.
Children around the age of two are the periods when tantrums are experienced intensely. How should parents approach the child during this period?
The two-year-old period is the period of autonomy, the child thinks that the whole world revolves around him, does not recognize rules, does not know how to share and becomes stubborn. Not being stubborn with a two-year-old who perceives the environment in this way, drawing the attention of the child in a different direction, and telling the events to the child as a story through someone else will reduce the tantrums.
Another period in which anger outbursts are common is adolescence. What should be the approach of parents to adolescents who have conflicts with themselves and their environment?
While the child’s two-year-old tantrums are unconscious, this period manifests itself differently in adolescents. adolescent; In order to prove that he has grown up, he compares himself with his friends and is stubborn for his freedom. It is very important not to break the relationship with the adolescent, to approach him with understanding and to be aware of what he is doing. You need to make him feel that you are with him. Adolescents may need to be alone from time to time and sometimes need to talk to someone. The investments of the parents during childhood and the quality relationship with the child bears fruit in adolescence.
We often see young people fighting each other verbally or physically because they cannot control their anger at schools. What are your suggestions to young people so that conflicts do not escalate to this level?
Breathing exercises are among the recommended methods in anger control. You can take deep breaths and try to visualize calming situations and landscapes in your mind. You can take deep breaths to fill your stomach, breathing with the upper part of your chest will not relax you. When you breathe in, your belly should swell, not your chest. As you breathe deeply, repeat to yourself, “Relax!” or “Calm down!” Try to envision a place or environment that will relax you. Remember a place where you were very calm in the past. If you memorize these techniques by practicing every day, you can automatically apply them in tense situations that you will encounter later.
Finally, what suggestions do you have for anger management?
– Identify the situations that trigger your anger and the type of anger
– Do regular self-soothing exercises
– Take deep breaths, control your heart rate and breathing
– Say calming phrases to yourself
– Be determined to control yourself
– Never consider violent behavior as acceptable solutions
– To anger, say ‘Yes! ‘ but to act with this feeling ‘No!’ say. Don’t shout, don’t hit
– Inform those around you about why you’re angry
– Take your time
– Remove yourself from the environment where you’re angry immediately, but come back when you gain control
– Try to clarify the problem and focus on seeking the solution
– Laugh a lot and use your humor. Bring a new perspective and a new framework
– Do not respond to personal attacks, avoid personalization
