Fear of abandonment is an intense and uncontrollable fear of being abandoned by the people one loves.
Fear of abandonment is common in children. Children have an intense fear that their parents will abandon them.
The intense fear of abandonment causes the individual to change or build his life, social life and relationships on this fear. People with fear of abandonment prioritize those they fear losing rather than themselves.
In uncontrolled and intense situations, the fear of abandonment can cause many discomforts such as depression, anxiety disorder, anger control problems, communication problems and lack of self-confidence.
What are the Causes of Fear of Abandonment?
Fear of abandonment arises for different reasons in each individual. The primary reason comes from the “anxious attachment” of the bond that the person established with their parents during infancy and childhood.
Babies’ feelings of trust are shaped by the communication they have with their mothers. Breastfeeding, taking care of and being with the baby play an important and primary role in the development of the baby’s sense of trust.
The absence of a father figure in the growth phase of the baby/child can also cause fear of abandonment. The absence of a father can cause anger control problems, self-confidence problems, as well as a fear of abandonment.
Other reasons include fear of being abandoned by her lover or spouse. A sudden abandonment in an emotional relationship may cause the individual to experience a sense of trust and fear of abandonment in the relationships he will form afterwards.
The Behaviors Shown by the Person Feeling the Fear of Abandonment are briefly;
- not deserving of love
- Frequent change of partner due to fear of abandonment
- Because the fear of abandonment is intense, falling on the other person too much, overwhelming the other party from time to time.
- Intense attachment to partners or friends
- Having an anger problem
- Trying too hard to please the people in front of him in bilateral relations, putting himself in the background
If you are experiencing this fear, you may need psychotherapy support from a specialist psychologist.
