While many of the relationships that started well continue on their way, some relationships become inextricable over time by experiencing various problems. The problematic relationship, which continues with its problems, makes it difficult for the couple to live together, and this union, which should have ended much earlier, leads to an unhappy life if it continues.
Troubled relationship; It is a happy relationship. Only one of the couples is unhappy by having problems in the relationship; In the middle, it is a sign of a big or small problem that needs to be solved. Even if there is individual unhappiness outside of the union, this situation is also reflected in the relationship and the one-person problem turns into a problem that two people have to solve.
What is the Source of Troubled Relationships?
There are many reasons behind problematic relationships.
The most common problems are;
Past traumas of one or both of the couples
negative relationship experiences
insecurity
Being raised by oppressive parents
sexual problems
Family interference in the couple’s relationship
Individual problems such as bipolar, obsessive-compulsive disorder, uncontrolled anger, communication problems, personality disorders… It may be the deepest causes of problematic relationships.
Here, we can elaborate the issue a little more with a few examples specific to couples. For example; the reason why an individual who tries to oppress his partner and put his faults in his face makes the relationship unhappy; may be insecure or that others have treated him the same way in his past life. Being an overly oppressive, jealous individual and being raised by oppressive parents can be another example. A problem experienced by an individual escaping from sexuality due to trauma or social pressure can be counted among the examples. Or “Everything is very routine in our relationship; The fact that we don’t have a problem has also become a problem.” There may be couples who say. The progress of the relationship may have stopped completely by experiencing many problems in the relationship. Of course, the many examples we have mentioned tell us that the dynamics of each relationship is different from each other. If the problems affect both the relationship and the love and commitment between the couple, ending the relationship becomes inevitable. However, couples in a relationship; There is always hope for the relationship to survive if they find the strength in themselves to overcome their problems.
You can try the following ways to take a positive step in the relationship;
• Do not hesitate to admit that you are wrong and always be solution-oriented.
• Solve your problems by talking in a quiet time.
• Make your partner feel valued.
• Keep your relationship warm with surprises.
• Give importance to your sexuality.
• Do separate activities and take up new hobbies.
If you try the above ways to save your troubled relationship, but the problems between you and your partner cannot be resolved, within the scope of couple and family counseling, the main source of your troubled relationship should be determined and how the main problem reflected on the relationship should be addressed. If necessary, the main source of the problem should be resolved by supporting it with individual counseling. Alternatively, it can be continued with relationship counseling.
