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The experience of physical or spiritual pain finds us from time to time, no matter how carefully we avoid it. Today’s modern societies create an illusion of “ultimate happiness” that traps people inside their comfort zones, encouraging them to immediately destroy the slightest “negative” emotion or experience, ignore it, or expel it as if it were not one’s own, as if it were an intruder penetrating us from the outside. Those who fail to do this are stigmatized as having mental problems. Do you know someone who has attained ultimate happiness? I do not know. Because there is no such thing. Happiness, like any emotion, comes and goes, then comes and goes again. Sometimes it stays longer, sometimes very short. What we push out of ourselves as “negative” emotions are not actually negative. It belongs to us and tells us a lot about us. The more we try to drive them out, the more they come because they want to be heard. When we listen to them, we become calm and balanced, able to perceive ourselves as a whole, and make our existence whole.

This text is based on Talat Parman’s “Fathers, Intimate Strangers” (pp. 79-84). In Parman’s article; The idea that it is the mother who determines the father has been criticized. This text was created with the view that the man also has a role in being a father, and the function of the father in the text is focused on being the other. The tribal example in Freud’s Totem and Taboo, and then the psychoanalyst Florence Guignard’s views on the father’s function, is examined in the text whether paternity comes only from the mother.

At first sight, it is straightforward to answer what is a disease. Most of us feel we have an intuitive comprehending the idea, reaching …