Is your violence learned or is it innate? This question is a frequently asked question. It is not necessary to be a scientist to see this. While violence is a normal thing in the Middle East, its rarity in Europe indicates the existence of learned violence. When do people learn about violence? Of course in childhood.
The child, who has been experiencing violence at home since infancy, begins to perceive it as a normal situation in his mind. When he sees his father’s use of violence against his mother, he learns that violence can be applied to a woman. When he sees that he can achieve his purpose by using violence, the pair of conditioning and violence plus reward settles in his brain. He learns to solve problems with violence.
Violence is learned at school, too. The teacher may use violence or learn about violence from peers. In underdeveloped countries, it is tried to provide discipline in school with violence. In other words, the school teaches violence one-to-one. Unfortunately, families see violence in schools as normal. This causes an increase in the tendency of violence in the society.
Child learns violence as the shortest problem solving method. It is seen that most of the children who come to child psychiatry who commit violence at school are also subjected to violence or there are controversial environments at home.
Children learn the methods of solving problems in front of them by observing from the adults around them. If the society is generally prone to violence, the child learns about violence as a problem solving method.
Social violence is more common in societies that use violence as a tool, whether religious or political. When we look at it, violence against women and children is very common in such societies. There are also more cases of torture.
Teaching children from childhood to solve their problems with other methods other than violence will reduce violence in society. In such cases, which come to child psychiatry, the violence in the family is tried to be reduced. This violence can be verbal and physical. Social education is very important in this regard. In a time when violence against women is talked about, it is a vital task to teach this to the first children.
