Some of the children have a nervous period between 1-3 years. They may even show aggressive behavior such as tantrums, hitting, kicking, biting—they don’t necessarily indicate that your child is engaging in negative behavior or that you’re a bad parent, but they require resolution.
Why Do They Get Grumpy During This Period?
The fact that children are aggressive in this period until the age of 3 is not because they are naughty or disobedient. Even though their language and emotional development are not mature enough to communicate with you and tell you their problem, they want to tell you something. Sometimes they continue to use violence as a means of attention if you can’t understand them.
1-3 year old children’s aggressions often occur in response to something they want – something that is logical (food, toy) or irrational (candy, someone else’s toy, dangerous). Of course, when the child is tired, hungry, sick and stressed, their aggression becomes even more severe.
So What Will You Do When Your Child Loses Control?
First of all, punishing your child will not work. In fact, your impulsiveness and anger will both cause your child to respond more angrily and approve of the anger.
When your child has outbursts of anger, it’s time to show your parenting. It shows that you need to begin to understand what your child is trying to say and how he or she is feeling. If you can solve their tantrum, they will learn the ways of self-expression thanks to you. Well, let’s look at the 4 steps to follow in these angers that will turn into an opportunity to teach your child a new skill:
1)Stop aggression. If he has physical aggression, gently but seriously stop his aggression. For example, if he is hitting or trying to hit you, hold his hands firmly and gently to prevent it from being effective. Their hands, nails, teeth, feet can all be their weapons. It’s your job to teach others that you can’t use these weapons.
2) Move to a quieter place. If someone is around the child, take your child to a quiet corner of the store or park, or to a separate room at home. Thus, by separating your child from the angering situation, you help him/her calm down and away from the surrounding gaze. And even if it’s a child, you’re protecting his reputation.
3)Help your child to describe himself in his own words. (Not with their hands, teeth, nails, feet) When they’re done pulling him into a quiet corner and calming down, he looks them in the eyes and calmly and politely (your voice should not be angry, anxious, agitated, hasty) ‘No one in our family shoots. Choose a sentence to describe yourself, such as ‘. Even if you are angry, worried, or disgraced with your child, remain calm and act calmly but clearly as a strong parent.
4)Summary After your child calms down, talk about what happened soon after (within half an hour). You can say to him, ‘I don’t want you hitting anyone or anything. When you want to say something to me, instead of hitting and getting angry, you can come to me and say ‘tell me’. This way, your child learns that you understand his anger but can express himself in other ways.
