People and Communication
Communication started with the first human being and has taken an indispensable place in the life of human beings until today’s world. Although in different ways in each period, human beings have succeeded in realizing the interaction and communication among themselves in some way. It started with the form of nonverbal communication in primitive ages and has reached our current time in various ways with the development of time and technology.
Human is a social entity. It can be ensured that people spend a healthy and happy time with their family and social environment through healthy communication. More negative moods and behaviors may occur in relationships with unhealthy communication styles. This paves the way for the termination of relationships, many negative consequences such as quarrels, violence, and divorce in the family. So what is communication, how does healthy communication take place, let’s try to explain it.
“Communication”; we can say that interpersonal feelings, thoughts and all kinds of expressions that can come to mind are expressed from one person to another. The point to note here is: It is a two-sided realization that there is a person who sends the message and a person who receives the message. “Health communication”, on the other hand, means that the person correctly conveys what he wants to convey to the other party, that is, the person receiving the message understands it correctly. There is mutual respect and an empathetic approach in healthy communication.
Today, when we examine the relations in media channels, family environments, business friendships in the office environment or bilateral relations, it is seen that communication is in a very deteriorated state. Nonverbal communication movements such as gestures and facial expressions have been replaced by violent movements. While the message to be given was being expressed, the person who was supposed to receive the message did not listen to the other party, on the contrary, it seems that he constantly tried to speak to express his own opinion.
In order for communication to be healthy, we must acquire skills such as effective listening and valuing others. We should ask ourselves questions such as who is the person in front of us and what is he trying to say. Answer; it will be a colleague, parent or sibling, a dear friend or a passer-by whom we do not know. Well, if these people in your life are valuable people, why do we act as if the things they want to say are worthless?
In the form of unhealthy communication, there are approaches such as answering loudly instead of active listening, and making the other party accept their own thoughts instead of empathic approach. For example, in a family, parents try to make their children do it reluctantly by deciding on their behalf without listening to what they want or trying to say. When we examine the communication style of two people working in the same environment in a different example, we realize that it is more judgmental and critical by using the ‘you language’. This unhealthy form of communication can have negative consequences.
When we really listen to the people we interact with in our daily life, we can overcome many problems. You will see that there are healthier interactions when we use ‘me language’ instead of ‘you language’ and accepting instead of criticizing and judging during communication. In this way, we can prepare an environment where people live more peacefully and people can get along with each other.
How beautifully Yunus Emre said:
word sack war
be a short cut head
I swear
A word oiled with honey.
