Imagine that you open an account at a bank. The more happy moments you deposit into this account, the happier and more long-lasting your relationship will be. Your goal should be to fill your account with happiness.
Find the reason for your indifference to each other. Jealousy, being together, shifting attention to children, financial problems, heavy marital responsibilities and unrealistic expectations can reduce the couple’s interest in each other.
Imagine a keychain in your mind. Put the keys of unconditional love, understanding, tolerance, friendship, sincerity, compassion, effort, patience and sacrifice on your key chain, all these facts are the golden keys that will open the doors of a happy marriage.
Value your partner’s ideas or dreams about a topic. Even if you disagree, respect his ideas and listen to them until the end.
Innovate to save your marriage from monotony. Create opportunities to spend quality time. Give him unexpected little surprises. Even if it’s not a special day, buy him a small gift. Take the opportunity to spend time together. Create shares that suit your common tastes.
Add mystery to your marriage to attract attention.
Love and appreciate yourself.
Recognize your spouse. See and appreciate that he dyed his hair, weakened it, did something special for you, even if it was small.
Never resort to violence when you are angry. Take a break, leave the environment, shower and sleep. Listen to music. As soon as the dosage of your fight rises, relax by breathing. Handle your conflicts from a constructive point of view, not destructive. Do behavioral criticism, not personal criticism. Put yourself in his shoes and empathize.
