healthy communication in marriage

Marriage is an institution, and since the cornerstones of this institution are parents, or in other words, women and men, it is expected that this institution should have started with a healthy relationship first. What is the expression of this?
unconditional support,
Appreciation and approval,
understanding, welcome,
trust and belief,
Love respect,
If such basic conditions are not formed or are missing, we cannot talk about a healthy communication and therefore a healthy relationship before they are completed.
Barriers to Healthy Communication:
The man’s hindering his wife’s development and business life,
Being the authoritarian side and establishing control all the time. This leads to the closure of all communication channels.
Not being able to express the troubles and feelings experienced, to accumulate.
Jealousy and oppressive behavior
Being intrusive all the time, ignoring the feelings and thoughts of the other party.
Not speaking, delaying the expression of feelings and thoughts.
Complaining and talking to other people about one another, gossiping.
Instead of choosing to talk one-on-one, face-to-face, putting others in and trying to communicate through others.
Unfortunately, we tend to regard marriage as an institution where two people live and think as one. However, marriage is the opposite of that. It is the ability of two people to live together as two separate people.
Communication channels are also open in marriages where people do not force each other for something and the basic principle is to show trust and respect to each other. This is the case in all relationships where individuals are sincere and natural and treat each other with respect. Healthy communication is primarily about trying to understand each other.
Two things bother a person. One is your own inner voice. The other is what other people say about him. We can apply this to marriages as well. In marriages, too, people are very obsessed with their inner voices about their spouses and what their spouses say to them and what they do. However, they begin to blame both themselves and their spouses.
There are two things that make a person happy: to tell and to be understood. If conflict has started in the marriage, the husband and wife can neither tell each other their problems nor think that they are understood. Therefore, they do not feel safe. So, it is very important to be able to tell and be understood correctly instead of listening to inner voices or imprisoning your thoughts inside.
I can list many suggestions for you, but communication has a definite rule: Talking and trying to understand each other. Once you achieve this, everything else will be possible. Remember; The most important condition for raising happy children is a happy family, and the condition for a happy family is happy spouses.