With the school holidays entering the semester, there is happiness in some houses and sadness in others.
Sadness may even have turned into a general mood of mourning. So what is the reason for this lament? Why are we in a mood of mourning even though we have not lost a friend or relative?
Our child got a report card and he has many weak points on his report card or his grades are not as high as we would like. While we, as parents, experience the mood of mourning, the failure of the children’s lessons affects their social and psychological state. As a result, the child’s relationship with the family may deteriorate. Mental problems experienced by children due to course failure are very important. However, first of all, it is necessary to focus on what is school and course failure and to understand the problem.
There are many situations that affect school or course success. The biggest factor in the success of the course is the intelligence capacity of the child. This causes the child to easily comprehend what is read, what is told and the information conveyed. If the child has a certain intelligence capacity, he or she can remember what is taught more easily. Congenital characteristics determine intelligence at a certain level. We are all born with a certain intelligence capacity that cannot be changed or played with. Postnatal environmental factors are also effective in ensuring that the existing intelligence works at its highest performance. Existing intelligence capacity can only be as effective as it is with education.
It is imperative that we consider the intelligence capacity of our child who is experiencing lesson failure, because perhaps our child’s capacity is only this much and we have to accept it.
If our child has a normal intelligence capacity but still has academic failure, the most important reason for this is often the situation that manifests itself when children feel a certain responsibility and do not organize the necessary study hours after school.
The sense of responsibility is one of the most basic skills that a child should gain. Responsibility starts from early childhood by assigning tasks appropriate to the age, gender and developmental level of the child. Starting from the age of two and a half, giving the child the opportunity to drink his soup, even if it is a mess, waiting for him to collect his toys, preparing an environment for him to sleep in his own bed in his own room, about responsibility; Provides an encouraging and supportive environment for the child. Such an environment will increase the child’s self-confidence as it will allow the child to be self-sufficient and self-directed. The sense of responsibility instilled in the child in every field from an early age will also be reflected in taking responsibility for the lesson. It is the student’s responsibility to be successful in school and in his studies. First of all, it should be known and acted accordingly. It is very nice for the student to know that his/her parents are with him/her while he/she is studying and they will help him/her where necessary. But this should not mean that the parents do the child’s homework and take on his responsibilities. The mourning of the parents because of the weak ones in the report card may also prevent the child from experiencing and evaluating the bad results. Let’s give our children the opportunity to experience sadness and mourning more than we do for bad grades.
If your child’s intelligence capacity is sufficient, there is an appropriate sense of responsibility, but he is still experiencing school failure, environmental factors should also be taken into account. The general condition of the school your child attends, the characteristics of the teacher, the characteristics of the class, the quality of the education provided, the opportunities provided in addition to the education directly affect the success of the children. Although there is no obvious problem at all these points, other factors that may be important in the failure of the child’s course are the issues that concern the child’s mental health.
There is a reason for course failure, it is important to seek solutions and get help from experts. It is important that children with failure are guided for course success without being compared with their peers and without damaging their self-confidence. While the children have such problems, the parents’ excessive indifference and excessive control cause these situations of the children to continue.
If the child is experiencing school failure, the accusations against the child should be dropped immediately and it should be investigated why the child has this problem. The causes of course failure should be investigated with a detailed psychiatric examination. The problem should be addressed without delay. The problem arising from the family, school or the child should be tried to be solved.
If a child has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, failure in class can be an important symptom. In addition to Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder, psychiatric disorders such as Specific Learning Disorder, Adjustment Disorder, Anxiety Disorders, Bipolar Mood Disorder may cause course failures. Psychiatric disorders are manifested by additional symptoms besides course failure.
With the treatment of the psychiatric disorder, improvement in course failure is evident.
The important thing is that parents spend time with their children, be aware of their situation, and necessary precautions should be taken before such problems are fully consolidated in the child’s life.
