After the birth and growth of the first child, parents often start planning a second child. Sometimes the idea is that the two grow up together, sometimes it is to give birth to a second child without much age difference.
In the first child’s growth phase, thoughtful days begin for parents when it is the turn of the second child. Sleepless nights, breastfeeding, feeding, diaper changes will be on the family’s agenda again. This time with a difference, this time they also have to think about the situation and psychology of the first child.
During the planning phase of the second child, parents should evaluate the following points well for themselves.
Do you really want to have a second child, or is environmental pressure making you think?
Are you ready to welcome the second child into your life?
Is your family budget sufficient for a second child?
Is your physical and mental health as a mother and father suitable for the second child?
Any unusual changes in your marital status? Sometimes the second child is considered to save the marriage that has gone bad or is recommended by the family elders, but continuing with a second child in a marriage with a child that has gone bad is very unfair to both the first child, the second child and the parents.
When it comes to the second child, parents should make decisions by considering the first child as well. Some factors such as the age of the first child, developmental status, and physical health are among the issues to be considered.
If the second pregnancy is to be a planned pregnancy, the birth of the second child should not coincide with important periods in the life of the first child. For example, the birth of a sibling a few weeks after the first child starts kindergarten may adversely affect the child’s adjustment to the nursery and his relationship with his parents.
Since the mother will be more busy with the care of the child in the first months with the birth of the second child, it is also important how much the mother wants the second child and how ready she is for this process.
A pregnancy where the mother does not feel ready and the birth after it, the child’s growth process can be difficult for both the mother, the father and the two children.
Parents, who return to business life and social life with the growth of the first child, should be ready to take a break from this life again for a while with the second child.
Considering all these reasons, the idea of a second child coming to the family is a situation that should be evaluated and decided by the parents.
For this reason, not being protected with the thought of “Milk protects” after the birth of the first baby and getting pregnant with the second child before the first baby is even old is the beginning of a different process for the parents.
Parents need to be more planned about the birth of the second child. All the points mentioned above should be reviewed and most importantly, if the parents and the first child are ready for it, planning for the second child should be made.
Family planning has gained even more importance in today’s world where parents work hard, financial difficulties are experienced, and parents find it difficult to allocate sufficient and quality time to their children.
The phenomenon of crowded family and siblings is an important value for both children and parents, but it is a planned life that will bring real happiness to the family…
