Managing this crisis best as a couple, coping with the pain of relational trauma, is between the couple.
should seek support from a marriage therapist in order to stabilize emotional turmoil and tension.
In the trauma of cheating, the spouses cannot reduce the pain and the reasons for the cheating are understood and evaluated.
They should not make a decision to continue or end their marriage.
Since cheating is a painful process that threatens the existence of marriage, the cheated spouse is affected by the pain.
should not engage in reactive behaviors such as revenge or inflicting pain. Couples infidelity trauma resolved
Then they can make healthier decisions about ending or continuing their marriage.
they should know.
Couples can cope with the emotional turmoil and tides after cheating, manage a trust crisis, and
Difficult issues, such as healing from trauma, are almost always addressed by a marriage therapist.
He should know that he needs guidance.
Your marriage therapist will provide you with a step-by-step roadmap for post-infidelity couples therapy.
will follow.
Marriage therapist explains how this situation, which is as painful as death, is making your marriage vulnerable.
will knowingly make the necessary arrangements to prevent further damage to your relationship.
In post-infidelity marital therapy, the therapist first determines whether they have motivations to save their marriage.
will determine whether Because both parties want to save their marriage and for this
marriage can survive if they try to take responsibility.
In post-cheating treatment, your therapist will help you manage the marital crisis in the best way possible.
Managing painful emotions, reducing pain, and what each of the couple members should do
individually to equip you with the necessary
will hold sessions. In post-cheating therapy, the marriage therapist
It reduces the tension and uneasiness between the couple by addressing the painful feelings it creates. of the relationship
guides you in making the best decision for your future.
Progress in marital therapy after couple infidelity under the guidance of a marriage therapist
to progress towards the rebuilding of responsibility, honesty and trust.
starts. In couple bonding sessions, they discuss what cheating means for them and their relationship.
He begins to understand what lessons they can learn from this so that it doesn’t happen again.
Restructuring relationships in marital therapy sessions after infidelity, existing
solving marital problems, establishing close communication, making a way towards reconciliation and healing.
starts. In post-infidelity marital therapy, the spouses mutually agree to avoid being betrayed again.
They learn that they must strive with sensitivity.
After cheating, cheated spouses sometimes turn the subject over in their heads,
crimes. “I’m not good enough”, “I shouldn’t have been so altruistic to him” “that person is more than me
should have performed better” etc. yet despite all these self-blame
The fact that his wife should not cheat remains in his mind unchanged. However, the cheating spouse
He knows he shouldn’t do this. Therefore, he should not blame himself. This crime
Being burdened increases the burden of the trauma of cheating and how to progress after cheating.
it is attached to the foot in determination.
It is one of the factors that I encounter very often in post-deception treatment and that affects recovery the most.
one can accept the fact of cheating even though the cheating spouse wants to save their marriage.
is the dilemma he has to face it. This dilemma is reassuring to your cheating spouse.
Despite the behaviors and efforts to save the relationship, the cheating spouse constantly accuses and
at every opportunity, it causes him to scrutinize the subject and eat the meat of his head. This situation is the other
spoils his motivation. It even causes despair from time to time and gradually
It serves to worsen the relationship.
One of the things that I encounter very often in post-cheating marriage therapy and that makes recovery difficult.
one is the failure or unwillingness of the cheating spouse to show empathy for their partner’s pain.
After cheating, the cheating spouse is afraid to talk about cheating. When you talk, everything is more
thinks it will be bad. He wants everything to be alright as soon as possible and the marriage to be the same as before.
But if the wife wants to win back her spouse and save their marriage, she is at a loss.
Empathy, a safe environment and time are needed for the wound to heal.
should know. Without the cheating spouse taking responsibility and engaging in a sincere dialogue with their spouse, the pain of trauma
should know that trust cannot develop without being understood, and they are ready to do what is necessary in this direction.
should be. If the cheated wife wants to save her marriage, she will need all her pain and insecurity.
However, they should embrace the responsible and reassuring behavior of the cheating spouse.
After cheating, the cheating spouse passes through a circle of fire and faces two painful truths.
comes to the surface.
1- Perceiving what is important to him in his life and how to lose them
understand that something is
2- Realizing that he needs to change the order of priorities in his life
If the cheating spouse really cares for their spouse when cheating is revealed, it’s okay to let their spouse walk out the door.
When faced with the fact that he is gone, he will be extremely sensitive, fragile and open to learning. If
If he wants his wife back again, he will correct his behavior. Confronted with the fact of losing his wife and family
Coming across has been an extreme experience for him. In this case, to get his wife back again
He does most of what his wife asks him to do.
He fulfills his needs in order not to lose his wife. To earn your trust
does its best. He takes responsibility, keeps his promises, acts consistently. Notice when it will be delayed
gives. It may even be helpful to seek support from a marriage therapist in overcoming the trauma of infidelity.
sees. You sense your partner’s sincerity.
Watching the anger of the cheating spouse after the cheating, being interrogated, not being able to approach him
and sitting in front of the marriage therapist with the spouse and throwing out all his dirty laundry.
doesn’t like it at all. However, if he values his wife and wants to save his marriage, despite everything
He knows and does what he has to do in order to gain the trust of his wife and enter her heart. This
Willing to gain the spouse’s trust in the problem and walk with him.
Although it is not easy not to doubt, trust and forgive after cheating.
possible. Cheating is not always a reason for divorce. Couple confronting their problems and cheating
If their causes are uncovered and resolved, if couples can reach each other’s worlds, their relationship
It can turn into a closer and deeper relationship than before.
Like every problem, this problem contains many opportunities, as long as our efforts are in this direction.
With the hope of building our relationship on a foundation of trust, stay well…
