One of the biggest fears of families today is that their children use drugs. But families are generally unaware of drugs. Parents who did not come from such a cultural environment, grew up in what we can call villages and towns, then came to big cities or still live there; He has no idea about drugs or stimulants. There was no one around these parents who used drugs, they do not know about the effects. He can understand the most drunkenness of alcohol. These parents cannot understand the effects of drugs on their child.
Our observation in the clinic is that these parents usually learn from school when teachers warn them or when the police catch the child somewhere, and this shocks them. To give examples from the experiences in our clinic, although many parents bring their children to us saying they smoke or drink, we can detect other drugs in the tests. Again, we followed up with the course problems; Then, the police caught a child whose treatment was abandoned by the police by finding drugs on him during a routine search on the road, thus the family became aware of it. Again, when a mother brought us the substances she had not seen before, which she found in her child’s room, we realized that it was cannabis upon our investigation.
When we look at these families in general, maybe they didn’t realize that he was using drugs, but there were some other things they were aware of. What are these things? In almost all of them, there is a distance from school and lessons, there is a change in friend groups, he gets away from the things he used to enjoy (such as computer games, playing football), he starts to spend more time outside than before, he does not want to stay with the family when he spends at home, he always spends time in his room. Whether he sleeps, his sleep pattern changes, sometimes he does not sleep at all, sometimes he starts to sleep a lot, there may be problems in getting up in the morning, he can talk more or less than before, sometimes there may be nonsense in his speech. Pupillary shrinkage and enlargement may occur. So parents notice them but attribute them to other things. Drugs don’t even cross their minds. Drug use should be considered when these symptoms occur.
It is very important to educate the family on this issue. It would be naive to expect the child to tell the family that he or she is using drugs of his own decision. Essentially, the child tells his parents that he is using drugs with his behavioral changes. Only the family should listen to the language of behavior in the child. Some children want to tell their parents about this situation, but they can’t do it because they are too afraid of the reactions they will get, they feel cornered.
The family should stay at such a distance from their child that; It must be both disciplined and accessible. He should be able to explain to his child that he is doing this for his child’s well-being. Otherwise, you will become the parents who criticize everything, which will push the child away from you. In the eyes of the child, the parents become old-fashioned people who do not know anything.
Talking to your children about harmful substances. If you don’t tell them, there will be peers and other people in their social circles who talk about them. When describing these items, you must be realistic. M
If you introduce everyone who uses Meddes as incredibly bad people, they will be surprised to meet good kids who use drugs and think that their parents are exaggerating as usual. Don’t be afraid to talk things out with your child.
The first reactions of families can be very harsh. This harsh reaction causes a child who has already set limits on the family to think that he is right. Instead of taking your child with you, you should take your child with you and talk about what we can do together. You should consult a psychiatrist and act with him. Not everyone who uses new substances is treated as an addict. Especially in children, the majority of them are children who have taken refuge in drugs due to their mental problems or they act together with the group and use drugs to meet their social problems. Young people want to be cared for, why the world is such an adventurous place. Subgroups who use drugs can respond to the social conflict in their mind. She quickly accepts him and places him in the group just because he is himself. It doesn’t look at the success of the course. They have a philosophy of not caring about the world, and for them everything is for fun.
Substance use teens sound simple and feel adventurous. However, what families want is to study, be an engineer or a doctor… these are long-term and difficult. Until this happens, the man will not be replaced. For this reason, it is important for families to make their children feel valued. It should not only establish a relationship over course and success. A calm and mature approach to the child also causes the child to be convinced of the treatment.
The treatment team does not focus solely on the substance. It focuses on underlying causes. These reasons can be very diverse, especially children who do not receive enough attention and love from their parents, broken families, and parental conflicts, which can put the child in a depressive phase and enter a path leading to drug use.
It also paves the way for substance use in some psychiatric diseases from childhood. Some of them, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Impulse Control Disorder, Depression and some Anxiety Disorders can also cause drug use. Because these substances can temporarily calm the disease, and the child who realizes this may seek substance again. Therefore, treating these diseases at an early age will prevent substance abuse.
Today, young people reach drugs quickly and can start with the influence of their friends. Some of them try, even if they don’t want to, in order not to feel incomplete among friends. Even if there are those who are used to the substance among them, some of them may move away from the substance on their own. But unfortunately, those who have behavioral problems or psychiatric problems cannot get away and stay there. Drug treatment is not the treatment of a single person, it is a family therapy with the child. Psychological education is a must for everyone. Parents, children and siblings, if necessary, participate in the treatment of the immediate environment. After the treatment, the family should replace the substance. The family should participate in the activities that the child will spend their time with, and they should spend a lot of time with him. This cannot be achieved without family. Drug treatment happens in every moment of life. Just as physically fit people are comfortable and happy, a child who is mentally fit will be happy, so he will not need drugs.
