INDIFFERENCE
The greatest violence that can be shown to a child; It is the maximum punishment to be given.
Just as when we tell our intense emotion to the other person, he should at least look at us; If possible, if we need feedback on listening and understanding, this also applies to our children.
This method, which makes the child feel very lonely and helpless, can cause major mental problems in the future.
REWARDING
Logically, it is not much different from punishment.
It can be used for younger children if there are rewards of no monetary value if they are told together with the reason.
The critical point is that we should not reward the child for what he or she should be doing anyway.
For example, eating dinner or going to school if his age is appropriate are things that the child should do regularly.
What he does not normally do; Even if he doesn’t do it because of his age, it can be effective, but rewarding the child for what he can do can be effective.
For example: making the bed.
In addition, instead of giving a material value toy or unhealthy food while rewarding, we should prefer a much more spiritually satisfying reward to give a picture you draw for him or a fruit you cut for him.
PUNISHMENT
Penalties ‘I made a mistake. I got it in return. Now we’re even, and I can repeat that” mindset.
Punishment comes back as it creates a sense of guilt. Guilt is a very difficult emotion to tolerate.
A child who constantly feels guilty will look for ways to get rid of it.
This situation may cause unwanted situations such as internet addiction, excessive consumption of food or turning to pleasurable objects in the future.
A child who is constantly punished and made to feel bad may not learn to manage his emotions.
Because; The child cannot gain this ability because the mother does not allow the child to express himself instead of listening, understanding and guiding the right behavior.
Unless a child feels accepted and loved under all circumstances, he may not be able to manage his emotions both in childhood and in adulthood.
However, the word “no”, which is stable, determined and said in the right places, is very meaningful for the child.
But if the child is accustomed to harmful punishment methods, this “no” will not be enough.
It should not be forgotten that if punishment worked for your child, you would have given this punishment only once.
