Deciding to divorce together is a very difficult process for spouses and children. The process of divorce can affect children psychologically, emotionally, physically and academically. Parental divorce often has a traumatic effect on children’s worlds. From the children’s point of view, separation of parents can be seen as a loss of family.
Problems arising from some disagreements between parents can be seen as a normal part of a healthy relationship. Every relationship has its ups and downs, but not every problem necessarily means they’re going to get divorced. Sometimes these behaviors can also be a sign of divorce. As these disagreements became more and more intense, signals of problems in this relationship emerged.
Babies may feel the tension between parents on their own period, but fail to understand the rationale behind the conflict. As tensions rise between parents, babies may become agitated, irritable, clingy around strangers, and may experience frequent outbursts of emotion. In infants, this can lead to developmental delay. To facilitate the transition of this period, consistency and routine during infancy are quite crucial. During or after a divorce, it is helpful to maintain normal daily routines, especially regarding eating, sleeping and feeding. It is important for children to give children their favorite toys, to create a safe space for children, to offer physical comfort, to hold them, to spend a lot of time with the child.
Children may not be very aware of the way parents behave towards each other. Sometimes children make inferences from their parents’ attitudes, communication and relationships. Children may not realize that they are noticing these relationship changes. When they realize these changes, they think that their parents will not stay married, and because of this concern, they ask their parents, “Are you going to get divorced? They utter the words ‘.
Spouses may not prefer to tell their relatives immediately when there is a problem between them. However, there may be changes in the relationship between them that are problematic and that these behaviors are not liked. Symptoms of a problematic relationship may include parents not talking to each other, seldom spending time together, and arguing with each other more often than usual.
There may be several reasons why parents do not immediately talk to their children about their problems. Children may not be ready to admit that their parents have problems. Parents may not want to involve their children in adult problems and may try to protect their children.
What should children do if they think their parents are getting divorced?
When children realize that their parents are having problems with each other, and if they have concerns, the best thing to do is to speak directly to their parents. It is best to say that they are behaving differently in the family, they notice this situation and they are worried. But no matter what the parents answer, Divorce is between the spouses. Not among children. Parents will always love their children.
The issue of separation of parents is a very challenging situation for young people. Adolescence is a time when there is so much about friendships, school, and teenagers experience high emotions. Many teens are already experiencing intense stress during this time. Divorce of parents or problems at home can increase teens’ stress. Problems between parents will greatly affect the decisions young people make during this transition period. Teenagers and adults with divorced parents can gain knowledge about self-efficacy and coping skills. Many teens may be inclined to suppress their emotions because they are worried that something is wrong with them. However, experiencing your emotions and allowing them to drain is essential for mental health. When teens find out their parents are getting divorced, there are many different emotional states they can feel. Maybe feeling angry, confused, sad, whatever one feels about this situation, validating the emotions is absolutely essential.
Life can teach us more lessons than it does. The main thing is to stand firm against the waves in negative eddies.
exp. Child Development/Psychology Science Specialist.
Jasmine TAS
