✔️Our choices actually reflect us, like why we listen to it instead of that, why we love drama rather than adventure…. as we make our choices, we start to create our lives. When the day comes and we have a child, we think that we will make his choices too.
✔️ we think as if our child is an extension of us, as if it should follow us, and we are wrong. Every child is born with various temperament traits, just like we did. The best example of this is that children born from the same parents have very different characteristics from each other. Fortunately it is, otherwise I think life would be very ordinary if we were uniform
✔️As we started to standardize our looks, we also started to make our lives the same as our child-rearing. Let him attend both piano, ballet and swimming lessons, and not be left behind in mathematics; be social-successful-not shy but not too jumpy-creative-don’t hit anyone but not be a loser….. These expectations are familiar to all of us
Nor should we expect him to be the most popular front-extrovert kid in the class. This does not mean that of course, let alone shyness, but I am talking about adjusting our expectations by respecting the personality of the child. I’m talking about taking into account its existing features.
✔️Speaking of respect; yes, I don’t think we treat our children very respectfully. Take care of your sports lessons, no girlfriend until the university exam, huh ‼️We turn adolescence into a mess when we say lying and deception. For example, which of us would like our emotions to be interfered with when we are teenagers, is it something that can be intervened?
✔️If we learned from someone else’s experience, I think we would have a flawless life. Unfortunately, we start from our own experience. In the process, we get to know ourselves, and sometimes even at the expense of repeating the same mistake. It doesn’t sound very realistic to cover up our own mistakes and then turn to our child and say, ‘then the circumstances were such, you will not make such a mistake’. We need to allow our child to make the wrong choice in his choices, to sometimes get upset for this cause, and then to learn from his mistake – sometimes not. After all, we do not own our children, but we can be good guides. Instead of imposing, we can share our ideas.
