People with intense memories of emotional abandonment as a child have difficulty coping with the physical or emotional abandonment they experience as adults. People always attract people who will abandon them. The reason for this is an effort to repair the past trauma with a similar one. People with fear of abandonment have difficulty establishing intimacy and quality relationships. They are so convinced that they will be abandoned that they provoke their partners with certain behaviors and force them to do so. The pain after a breakup is unbearable, so they immediately want to find a new partner and settle down. But when things don’t go well with the new partner, they experience depression again. However, it is normal to leave and to be abandoned in relationships. Sometimes we leave, sometimes we are abandoned. Accepting and internalizing this knowledge can calm one’s pain.
It may be good for the person who wants to become strong against abandonment, to make a connection between the abandonment of his childhood and the abandonment he is experiencing now. Emotional abandonment experienced or witnessed especially between the ages of 0-6 is important.
