Why is Marriage and Couples Therapy Important?
Individuals choose a partner for themselves due to their social, cultural, psychological and sexual needs. When I say “cultural”, I would like to emphasize that this concept reflects different lifestyles from society to society. In some societies, the fact that couples are under the same roof without a “marriage union” is not accepted; In some societies, choices made by individuals and parties are tolerated.
When individuals start living together, when it comes to sharing their responsibilities, they need “Couple Therapy” in cases where they cannot overcome the conflicts and tensions between them.
Why do problems sometimes seem unsolvable? Whether it is a family or a couple, individuals’ perspectives on problems will naturally be different. Murray Bowen’s “Bowen Family Therapy” Theory is important here. Despite the emphasis on the past of the family in Bowen’s “Intergenerational Family Therapy” there is also an emphasis on the present.
Clients are told that by going back three generations as their family origin, they can help to see the effects of genetic codes by creating a genogrom. In addition, Bowen Therapy (the use of genograms) is important in that individuals can see where they are stuck at the stage where their perspectives on problems react depending on the model they have learned from their origin families, and in these cases, they cannot find a solution to the problems they experience.
It is aimed to raise awareness of couples’ perspective on problems in processes such as conflict and divorce in families, and in therapy sessions. Sometimes, relationships may seem better if individuals cut off emotional contact between them. However, since the problems are temporarily ignored, they are not solved. In the therapy environment, by gaining mutual new “communication skills”, it is also ensured that they gain the ability to effectively convey the message they want to say to each other.
Although it seems that there is no physical conflict between individuals in families with children, the psychological-emotional tension between them and the feeling of distance from each other will also have a negative effect on their children, so it is harmful for children’s mental health.
A happy family; It is an important need to get support from a therapist for happy children, happy individuals, and a happy society.
