While all the emotions that exist in life should be considered normal, presenting mental health patterns as normal(!) may cause the person to doubt his own feelings, even himself.
We have habits that prefer talking to a restless mind to speaking to a calm mind. We are trying to adapt to our environment, dominated by those who are constantly saying what is problematic, what needs to be fixed, or what needs to be standardized because it is out of the norm. From business life to our private life; In fact, we are in an order that often comments, decides and criticizes how we should feel in our inner world. Being exposed to lists, content and conversations such as “To be successful in the business world, to follow the 12 steps for a happy marriage, to go there to discover yourself…” prevents us from discovering and making sense of life at our own pace. Unsourced content that has become widespread especially in the field of mental health, evaluations mixed with the personal comments of those who are not from the field of mental health, categorizations made by forgetting that people are unique, can have a negative effect on individuals even though they seem helpful for mental health.
“If you do the following, you have a psychopathic brain; if you are doing these, your social skills aspect is lacking; If you do the following, you will find your inner peace.” similar judgments implicitly contain criticism, insults and reproaches. Although these publications seem like content created to get likes, they secretly put their readers into a mold or allow them to fall into the formed patterns. In particular, the “mental health” patterns presented can create the feeling of individuals stuck in a labyrinth in their inner world, always wandering in the same place, but unable to reach the goal. While all the emotions that exist in life should be considered normal, presenting such mental health patterns as normal(!) may cause the person to doubt his own feelings, even himself.
Mold sentences
For example, “How can a mentally healthy person be?” Sentences in an article called; “They do not have trouble making decisions… They do their job with pleasure: they wake up every morning and feel happy to go to work… A new environment, new work arrangement, marriage or travel does not make them anxious…” sentences implicitly convey to their readers, “If you are indecisive, you can go to work every day. If you don’t feel happy and worried that you’re gone, you’re not mentally healthy.” says. However, a person has the ability to switch from one emotion to another within seconds, sometimes stay in the mood he is in for days, and sometimes continue to work without interrupting his daily life, despite feeling in a turmoil of emotions. As each individual’s way of experiencing their emotions is unique, the reactions of each individual when they enter a new environment are also unique.
Many people can feel lonely, agitated, and alert when they enter a new environment. Uncertainty is troubling. While the person’s heart is in his mouth and his breath is at his fingertips, his panic decreases as the pupils get used to the place he is in, and he begins to explore the environment he finds more easily. The anxiety of people who enter a new environment or a new mental state also decreases over time, but it is not possible to feel anxiety. Especially, new situations such as getting married or becoming a parent, which are embellished with social, spiritual and symbolic transitions, may cause unprecedented anxieties. The duration of the anxiety may change, the form of the anxiety may change, the physical and spiritual repercussions of the anxiety may change, but the anxiety is there. Feeling anxiety is also valuable in many ways, such as challenging creativity, getting practical, using humor or surviving. The important thing is to realize that anxiety is a functional emotion and avoid uncontrolled anxiety, not the anxiety we experience. Saying that one should not be worried without saying that anxiety is normal will cause the individual experiencing anxiety to feel uneasy and pressured because he or she feels anxious.
hidden judgment sentences
Or people who don’t feel happy going to work when the earth wakes up? Those who love their job but have a restless working environment and cannot change their job due to economic or private reasons, or those who do not feel happy going to work for a while due to worries in their private life… Can’t we call them mentally healthy? “Spiritually healthy people enjoy their job: they wake up every morning feeling happy to go to work.” discourses such as “If you do not feel happy in every moment of your life, you have a problem spiritually.” says. Since external events can affect emotions, the inner world and even the biological inner world can trigger emotions, it is normal for one day to not keep up with the next, the role in business life and the role in private life can cause different feelings, the important thing is not to have a constant feeling, but to stay in balance and in oneself. Confidential judgment sentences that are formed without mentioning that there is a problem can become a threat to mental health.
To-Do List
In the discourses about mental health that we encounter frequently in traditional and new media, the pure and genuine; perhaps it is to realize that the pure and genuine cannot be presented to us in a list. Although people tend to believe in such information quickly to eliminate ambiguities, not being able to fit into the patterns they try to include turns into inner restlessness. Because the uniqueness of the individual takes up more space than all the should/shoulds, and the sentences that say what should be done remain shallow. Of course, the sentences we come across can be a guide, a source of thought or a reference, but they cannot be the only correct one. however, a “to do list” cannot be made to be a mentally healthy person. It is not possible to progress without first defining what it means to be mentally healthy for that person. Articles and speeches that put human behavior into a certain pattern, that come to clear conclusions by ignoring individuality, and that make perfection necessary for imperfect human nature can be accepted as the summary of “How not to be a mentally healthy person?”
*The main idea of this article hopes that these and similar sentences will also be questioned by the reader. It is up to the reader to accept or reject the information he/she comes across by filtering it through his/her own values.
