Sexuality, Sex and Sexual Health
Sexuality is a biological process that begins with birth and continues until death. Sexuality is also the basis of reproduction in humans as in all living things.
However, we should consider sexuality not only for reproductive purposes but also as making love for pleasure, because the pairs of love moments, which we call sexual intercourse, are good not only for pleasure but also emotionally. It is a fact accepted by experts that a healthy and happy sexual life is one of the pillars of many relationships and marriages.
It is very important for individuals to have healthy sexual lives because a healthy individual means a healthy society. I would like to point out that an important subject such as sexuality that directly affects the pleasure and joy of individuals in life is a topic that can be talked about comfortably in happy societies and is not a taboo subject.
So what does it mean to be sexually healthy?
Sexual health is a state of mental, emotional and social well-being of the individual without any physiological and functional disorders. We call it sexual well-being.
To use a clearer expression, it is the individual’s enjoyment of sexuality without any coercion or violence, without feeling embarrassed or feeling bad about sexual safety. This action can be with or without a partner.
But sexuality and sex are different phenomena, they are often confused, but they are different. Sexuality begins with birth and is the biological identity that determines gender. Even walking, talking, dressing are parts of sexuality.
Sex, on the other hand, is the state of sharing sexuality with others, that is, the act of sexual intercourse by couples.
For example, a homosexual woman may prefer women like a man in her sexual orientation, even though she has a female gender. This shows that sexuality is a deeper issue than it seems. Sexuality is the whole of an individual’s sexual tendencies and constitutes the cornerstone of people’s characters.
As a part of sexuality, sex is actually one of the activities that individuals will enjoy the most throughout their lives, but unfortunately, this state of pleasure turns into a necessity for couples from some situations. Especially in societies where women are devalued, female virginity is valued, sexual knowledge is insufficient, false beliefs about sexuality and sexuality are believed to be for men, sex becomes an obligatory duty rather than an act of pleasure.
Unfortunately, we observe that in some societies, since sexuality is considered a shame and sin, individuals cannot get enough information about this extremely important subject that has become a taboo, and therefore they have problems in their sexual lives.
Unfortunately, it is very difficult to solve sexual problems in societies where sexuality is not talked about as shameful. However, sexuality is an extremely natural act like eating or drinking water and should be perceived as such. For a healthy sexual life, first of all, we need to change our perspective on sexuality, since not being able to talk about a subject that so directly affects the lives and happiness of individuals and couples will cause the existing problems to grow. We need to better understand the importance of sexuality in our lives.
For example, let’s make an assumption; Let’s say you have a long-term relationship and you realize that the taste of your partner’s saliva makes you sick to your stomach only when you get married, don’t you think it’s a little late to realize that marriage?
However, if you had talked about sexual expectations before marriage or expressed mutual expectations and discomfort, you would have solved or prevented similar problems from the beginning.
This is exactly why it is essential to talk about expectations in relationships and to share your priorities in sexuality. This allows couples to put their marriage and union on a healthy basis. Studies show that a healthy and happy sexual life forms the basis of long and happy relationships.
When talking about sexuality is forbidden, how can you guide your child in the formation of sexual identity?
In societies where sexuality is taboo and perceived as sin, crime, forbidden or shameful, individuals cannot recognize their own bodies and cannot discover the areas they enjoy in their bodies. Accordingly, sexual intercourse, which should be a pleasant and romantic act, becomes unpleasant and unpleasant due to necessity.
The fact that sexuality becomes coercive and a duty also causes sexual dysfunctions in individuals over time.
You may be afraid or disgusted with sex or ejaculate prematurely. If you don’t know or can’t experience orgasm. You may be hesitant to tell your partner what you feel or think about your shared sexual life.
Realizing and accepting that you have such problems will bring you very close to the solution. You can get treatment by getting to the root of the problem with therapy from a specialist sexual therapist. You may be nervous at first, but don’t be afraid because there is no unresolved dysfunction.
