Ways to reduce the effects of divorce on children
1. During the separation period, information should be given to the child in accordance with his/her developmental level.
2. The child is especially curious about what his own life will be like. For this reason, information such as where the child will stay, whether he will continue to the same school, how and how often he can see his father and other relatives should be given in a way that he can understand.
3. Children sometimes blame themselves for the separation. It should be said unequivocally that the parting is not about them.
4. Parents should continue to set boundaries and show love to the child appropriately. Too much boredom or failure to set appropriate boundaries will cause the child to be unhappy.
5. Ensuring and maintaining father’s participation is important for the happiness and development of the child. The presence and continued support of the father will also make the mother’s life easier and will make her relationship with her child more positive.
6. After divorce, academic problems are common, children need to be supported in this respect.
7. Parental blaming and blaming each other worsens the parent’s relationship with the child and returns like a boomerang. This behavior should be avoided.
Psychological counselor
Nurullah GÜMÜŞ
