Abandonment Chart
Do you attract unstable people into your life in a loop? The one who cheated on you, said don’t strangle me
Do you associate with people? Are there people who are indecisive about you and who don’t care?
incommensurable? Are people who can leave you more attractive? If so, probably abandonment
You have the schematic.
A schema is a pattern that begins in childhood and continues. Emotion, thought and relationship building process
effects. In the abandonment scheme; You think that the people you love will eventually leave you.
You worry a lot about their death. Thinking that you will be alone because of this belief,
You cling to people close to you too much, you get jealous and thus you turn those people away from yourself.
you remove. You may avoid relationships because you fear abandonment.
If the abandonment scheme is strong; What you experience in romantic relationships, you experience in friendships as well.
However, its degree is lower. You think your friends are inconsistent and your friendship
You wouldn’t believe it will last long.
When we look at the origin of the abandonment scheme; early death of parents, mother’s illness
hospital stay, being brought up by a caregiver or in a boarding institution.
to be. Parents constantly quarreling or getting divorced at a young age. Parents’ attention
way to lose. There are reasons such as having an overprotective family.
HOW CAN I CHANGE THE Abandonment Scheme?
– Go to the childhood memory when this situation first started in a calm and peaceful environment. The origin of the schema
try to find it.
– Stay away from inconsistent, unreliable people. (I know it sounds very appealing to you.)
– When your schema is triggered and you worry about being abandoned, it’s a legacy from the past.
Remind yourself that it’s a mold.
– Get reliable, consistent people into your life and trust them. (I know it doesn’t appeal to you.)
– If you’re avoiding relationships, give someone you can trust a chance.
– Get psychotherapy from experts in the field.
With love…
