We can define aggression as another result of a personal injury. As a result of this injury, the child makes verbal attacks in the form of hitting, biting, throwing things, kicking, spitting and threats aimed at harming his peers.
The child who is persistently and excessively aggressive is irritable, incomprehensible, ready for action, and extremely disagreeable. Their relationship must be strained and frictional. It immediately shines and is ready for a fight. He constantly breaks the rules and gets punished. These children are not affected by punishment or appear to be affected for a short time. They try to resolve even the usual disagreements with the strength of the wrist. Their reactions are disproportionate and disproportionate to the situation. He can’t get over his anger and always tries to justify himself. These children constantly create problems at home, at school, and are in constant conflict with adults. Generally, boys are more aggressive.
CAUSES OF AGGRESSION
1- Rewarding aggressive behavior by parents. The traditional culture’s approval of the boy’s aggression (For example: Two children fight in the park. If one of them is beaten more; the mother is upset because her child cannot defend herself)
2- The child receives strict punishment, lack of understanding and insufficient love from adults.
3- Feminist environment that occurs when the mother is constantly around the child during the father’s long absence.
4- The negative impact of TV and mass media.
5- Negative attitudes of parents, poor communication with the child.
6- The child’s beating by his parents.
7- Physiological problems such as meningitis, brain injury.
HOW CAN WE PREVENT AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR?
1- First of all, parents should not be a model of aggression to the child. If there is a child who is beaten in the house, he beats his brother. If he doesn’t have a sibling, he hits his friend or tortures animals in the slightest problem at school. Because beating creates negative feelings for everyone.
2- Too much aggressive behavior should not be tolerated. If the child’s wishes are fulfilled when he/she does this type of behavior, the child starts to see violence as a tool in getting his/her wishes done. In this way, their wishes should not be fulfilled. Aggressive behavior should not be rewarded and it should be shown immediately that this behavior is undesirable.
3- Aggressive behavior should never be punished with beatings. When the love of the parents decreases and physical punishments continue for a long time; aggressive, rebellious, irresponsible behavior develops in the child. When aggressive behavior occurs, adults should remain calm and use “I language” instead of abnormal emotional reactions. When beating is applied immediately after the end of the aggressive behavior, it can cause it to be stopped immediately; however, it develops hostile feelings in the child.
