There has been and will continue to be a lot of discourse, a lot of articles, a lot of gossip, a lot of discussion, a lot of talk about cheating. Cheating is a very disturbing feeling for those who experience the feeling of being cheated on. Because while you continue to do something for him; he is busy digging your well.
Relationship means effort. You will definitely give something from yourself so that you can continue to share something with the other party. If you don’t give anything, the relationship can neither begin nor continue. That the other party definitely finds something in you so that he continues his marriage.
Then why is he cheating? Your spouse is doing everything in the house, in the care of the children, in his education, in his health, without interrupting anything. There is no problem reflecting on you. Because she is a strong woman. Maybe she found a way out of being oppressed for years. His children are the most important asset to him; devoted himself to them..
Is it possible to eat baklava and pies every day? A person gets fed up… In deception, the deceived party should not necessarily look for negativity or fault in himself. Or the environment shouldn’t think like that.
Yes; Let’s come to the man, every order is provided, there is no problem. Laundry is washed at home, food is prepared on time, problems are not reflected. What should this man do? If his personality and character are bad, and he is described as “characterless” in the society, such people… He should find women and women for his heart, who will entertain his heart, and only for his own sake.
His children are not important to him at all. It just has to live. He must live in the present, what will happen in the future? What should it be? What should their children’s future be like? These questions and the answers to these questions are far away for him. Even though the woman in the house meets all kinds of needs, her heart should have more fun, hasn’t she come to this world just to enjoy herself? Then everything is fair. From the blessings of the world until you consume all your material possessions! He should benefit..
Such people wear such a mask that they no longer have the feature of being a mask and become integrated with themselves. They show up as a good family man. The environment, the subject-neighbour, knows him with his family order, which works like clockwork and arrives on time. At the weekend, we go out together, do weekly shopping, the car door is opened to the spouse, the couple who sees from the other side looks at the behavior with envy.
The wife thinks that she deserves them, that she is married to a kind man. The woman is happy and proud because the problems are not reflected on the man and are absorbed like a sponge. It is noticed that he makes an endless effort for his family and his influence on the functioning order is undeniable.
Although the man describes himself as quiet, introverted and asocial, the woman devotedly strives to keep her home alive for years. His family and children are very important because.. He also felt obliged to withdraw from the society and suffered from the invisible spiritual pressure.
By making silence and an image oppressed by women a way of life; it presents itself as pathetic to the environment. Putting on another disguise in order to benefit from humanoid values such as being on the side of the oppressed in society is artistry! Doing, creating a new world for himself is always a must for him. There is benefiting from the benefits of this, in the end… Exploiting the well-intentioned, self-confident and pitying family is the most important goal for him. Here is the danger. Straw should run water under it. He should take advantage of his wife’s blessings as far as he can walk. Why should he continue his marriage? It means he can’t sacrifice. But a life (that he cheated on) is a different color for him! It adds..
The most important blessing! is to erase the MOTHER in the eyes of her children by pitying herself. Woe to the children who come to the game…
These people eat their money, gamble with various women, raise their shoulders and say “I don’t have money”, “I don’t have a planted tree” and look around them with their sluggish state. they continue to hurt themselves.
What a ATTENTION what this dangerous, self-deprecating, deceiving, snobbish MALE TYPE!
Öznur Simav
Family counselor- psychological counselor
