WHO IS ANNOUNCED
If the conditions allow, it may be more appropriate for the parents to explain together. Two different conversations can raise more questions.
If there is more than one child, all children should be explained at the same time. The presence of siblings can ease the difficulty of the news and give a sense of trust, support and continuity of the family.
WHERE TO EXPLAIN
In terms of feeling safe, it can be said that he lives at home. However, if you think that your child will be affected by this situation, it can be said in an environment where you do not go often and will not have to go afterwards.
WHEN TO ANNOUNCE
The divorce decision must be disclosed when it becomes final.
Sharing the separation decision with the child too early may cause an anxious wait in the child, and talking just before the house leaves may prevent him from giving the necessary time to prepare himself for this new period.
HOW AN EXPLANATION
The main point should be to make the child understand that you will always remain their mother and father.
In order to reduce the uncertainty in the speech content in the future, it may be useful to express what will change and stay the same in your daily life (who will live where, how often to meet with the separated parent, etc.) in order to reduce the anxiety that uncertainty will cause.
It may be difficult for the child to convey the negative aspects, mistakes and deception of the parents.
When making explanations, it is important to use language that is appropriate for the child’s developmental level and understandable.
-If the children are younger, the process should be explained in terms that they can understand, and if they are older, more information should be provided.
It should be stated that the divorce phenomenon is a normal situation and it can happen to anyone.
It should be said and thought that the child does not have a crime or responsibility in making this decision.
-It should be mentioned that at the end of the divorce, the parents will have to live separately, but this does not mean that the parents’ love and interest towards the child will decrease. It should be noted that the roles of husband and wife are independent of each other.
AS A RESULT; Frequent conflicts within the family affect children more than parents divorce. Children need to grow up in an environment where they are happy.
