In this article, should we think about the situations that we choose and are judged for our choices when we have difficulties as a result?
Life is made up of choices, that is, it presents us with choices such as how we will spend our day, what we will do, which district of the city we will live in, who we will marry, how many children we want to have, life and we choose what we think will be good for ourselves. Very naturally, we may experience some difficulties after our choices and we share this with those around us. We need to share. You can call it lamenting, you can call it complaining. You can say to be stuck in the emotion, to be constricted, to be overwhelmed. But when we talk about the bad parts of the process we are in, we get answers like this, right? “You chose it.. it was obvious that it would be like this. Well, I wish you didn’t work so hard.. I told you not to have the third child… well, if I chose that job, you will endure your difficulties.” Like, if you chose it in parentheses, we get responses that mean “you have to be happy, you don’t have the right to worry”.
But in this business, what we call the irony of life, whatever the choice is, difficulties may arise afterwards. And sharing difficulties is sometimes just a sharing of moods. Understanding is the need for relaxation. And you know what happens when that need is not met? We perceive difficult choices as mistakes and describe ourselves as unsuccessful. In order not to be the clear target of people, we hide all our difficulties that we think are weaknesses.
What we need to break this perception is to be behind our choices, our difficulties, our negative emotions. Yes, I chose it, my choice has difficulties, but to be able to say that it is my choice with these difficulties…
