WHY DOES THE CHILD LIE?
The child’s lying is to protect his own existence, inner world and emotional balance, just like adults.
WHAT IS THE AGE OF LIE?
The exact age at which children begin to lie has not been fixed. But it is a fact that in order for a child to lie, he must first be aware of other people’s thoughts.
WHEN TO BE CONCERNED?
Lies before school age are playful in children and are perfectly normal. It may be necessary to work on lies after school age.
My Child Never Lies
You may be too sure of your child’s upbringing and you may be under the illusion that he will never lie. We have news for you: There is no child who does not lie. Lying is sometimes taught to the child by his environment by being a role model. Sometimes children lie about things they miss or want to come true. Sometimes he may try to provide the love he needs with lies, as he says out of fear.
WHERE DID I MAKE A WRONG?
- Have you ever used physical or verbal violence while educating your child?
- Have you used fear as a tool in raising children?
- Have you been stingy in appreciating your child just because he gets spoiled?
- Did you get angry and punished when your child preached honesty at length and lied?
- Are you constantly reminding your child what not to do?
- Do you think your child doesn’t count on you when you catch him lying?
So what should I do?
The child’s age should be taken into consideration in the lying behavior and he should not be prevented from being afraid of fictional stories that aim to play when he is young. No seeds of fear can be planted on the basis of any respect and love. The bond between the child and each of the family members should be particularly strengthened so that the child feels safe. Create environments where you can share your feelings with plenty of conversation and where the child can take you as a role model. If you want to raise an honest child, please also be honest in your relationship with your child. (This includes the consistency in our statements such as if you go to school, we go to the park in the evening, if you run out of food, I will give you the tablet, if you do not get dressed, you cannot go out.)
When the child lies, he should not be punished immediately by thinking ‘Let me take my stand now so that he does not do it again’, and an angry and harsh reaction should not be given. Instead, the child should be encouraged to tell the truth. But if he insists, instead of trying to prove him a lie, he should focus on the reasons and find out how to help.
How we treat the child, so the child treats the world. Pam Leo
