Our problem with the image in the mirror

The character of our possible story that we can hear in the session room is that girl who cannot take her eyes off the mirror. And she says;
“Sometimes I look at myself in the mirror for minutes, examine myself, and then I think how can people love me anyway. How can anyone else love the mirror when I don’t like, dislike, or even feel embarrassed about me? They’re so right.”
Haruki Murakami said that no matter how long a person stands naked in front of the mirror, he does not reflect himself in the mirror. What is it that we see in the mirror? Why do we look at mirrors for so long?
Because we want to be able to create a complete picture of ourselves in our minds. Right profile, left profile, above, below. We look and we look. However, the pens with which we drew the picture inside were taken from so many other people. Colorful pencils that I borrowed from my mother, father, brother, neighbor, manager, lover, and maybe even that actress I liked very much. I took the pen from each of them and drew constantly. Then when I look at my portrait, what I see is so confused that I can’t decide how I look and I go and look in the mirrors again. Because I have listened to everyone who really knows me, who can love me as I am, who cannot love me, who reflects their feelings of worthlessness to me, or who praises me by living their value on me. The questions we need to ask ourselves here are critical; Do I resent every criticism, get angry with myself, question whether I am good or bad, and constantly compare myself with the other? When people say something about me, do I resent them or do I question the place and importance of that person in my life? Does the person the criticism comes from really know me, is he saying these things to get me to a better place, or is he just pulling me back with these criticisms? We can’t deny that we are relational people and people’s opinions matter to us. However, we should pay attention to whose opinions are important to us in our lives and filter them. In this way, we can create a more complete, solid, realistic self, and we can take our eyes a little from the mirrors.