It is the state of sacrificing oneself for the other person by ignoring one’s own thoughts, needs and values. This situation is destructive and dysfunctional for individuals. The purpose of these people is the desire to be valued and valued by the people to whom they make excessive sacrifices. They want their actions to be noticed. These people run the risk of losing their own personality after a point. They lose their self-worth, respect and self-confidence. They feel empty because they don’t even care about what they think and feel. They often have a hard time saying no. People who make excessive sacrifices experience various psychological problems such as stress, depression, anxiety and problems in relationships. Because the person is dependent on the other party and forgets his purpose and value in life.
People with a pattern of extreme altruism have an active worthlessness schema. These people engage in these behaviors to gain value and love. From another point of view, this is also true in cases where the family loves the child conditionally. The child grows up knowing that he must do something to be approved and accepted. In other words, children who do not get enough attention and approval from their families during childhood try to fill this gap with the people around them in adulthood. They want to be approved and loved by them.
Any Rand defends the view that the value status between two individuals on this subject is reciprocal. According to him, to what extent a person can be helped and what can be sacrificed in this help should be directly proportional to what that person can sacrifice for the other. And she says that the individual should think about his own self first.
