Primary school is different from pre-school. Although the child goes to school willingly and fondly in the pre-school period, this desire may change when he starts primary school and may begin to cry.
This is normal for the child. Because with the beginning of primary school, the teacher, friend, environment and expected behaviors of the child change. It takes time for the child to get used to all this, this time is called the “Adaptation Process”.
As parents, it is useful to pay attention to the following:
Do not blame or scold your child by thinking that this situation only happened to your child. Not wanting to go to school and not wanting their mother to be with them are also very common situations when starting school.
It should be kept in mind that this is a temporary situation experienced in the process of getting used to school, and one should not panic. Instead, supporting yourself by keeping your cool will work better in overcoming the problem.
Statements such as “You have to go to school, you can’t learn to read and write if you don’t” don’t do much to persuade the child. Instead, it is necessary to talk about the enjoyable aspects of the school.
Before the school starts, try to explain the differences without frightening your child by saying, “Primary school is different from kindergarten in some aspects” instead of explaining to the child, “This place is not like a kindergarten, there are many rules you have to follow, your teacher will get angry with you if you do not follow the rules.”
Children who do not want to go to school will experience more psychosomatic complaints such as nausea, vomiting, stomachache, and headache before going to bed at night and when they wake up in the morning.
Talk to the child and try to find out if something is really bothering him. If this is the case, try to comfort the child by stating that these problems can be resolved and resolved.
Family members should be consistent about going to school; While the mother is trying to persuade him to go, the father should not be in an attitude of not going today. Because children use such gaps in a very professional way
The fun and beautiful aspects of the school should be explained not only because of its duties and responsibilities, but also because of its sociability, fun aspects and it will enable them to make friends that they will not find anywhere else.
It should be ensured that the child goes to school regularly and no concessions should be made in this regard, and the child should not be allowed to get what he wants by acting emotionally. Because the longer he stays away from school, the harder it will be for him to start going back to school regularly.
If the situation that causes the child’s fear of school originates from the home, try to eliminate it urgently and the relief of the child in this regard will reduce his fear of school.
A child’s fear of being alone should never be met with anger and threats. Instead of scolding, a constructive and reassuring approach will comfort the child.
Collaborating with the teacher and being consistent will give you an advantage in solving the problem in this process.
Remind the child about the events that he or she could do when he was alone or apart, thinking about and remembering them will help him to increase his confidence.
In this period, encouraging and encouraging the child to do something on his own and go out will reduce the child’s anxiety. Because seeing that he can do something alone outside of school will give him courage and this will help him gain confidence.
Instead of making the child feel small in front of the elders, try to increase the relations with his peers outside of school and to catch the group dynamism. Do not forget that the child will shrink in the presence of adults, but will see himself as an individual in the presence of his friends. For this purpose, trying to organize out-of-school activities in cooperation with other parents will accelerate the children’s adaptation to school and reduce their anxiety.
It can make school preparation, staying up in the morning fun, a breakfast prepared with beautifully painted eggs or an alarm clock that wakes you up by making different sounds, waking up with a kiss will make the child happier.
