HOW DO I CALL MYSELF?
In this article, we will make a little journey to our inner world.
What comes to mind when I say loneliness?
When it comes to loneliness in our land; We think of thoughts that are tired, worn out, hit by people, and involuntarily condemned to loneliness.
In fact, loneliness is something that one must live by nature.
Man has three dimensions that make up himself;
-Identity
-Personality
-self
Our identity;
You are a woman, a man, mother, father, son, spouse, relative, friend, neighbor, student, citizen, teacher, doctor, etc.
Our personality;
There is also our personality, the way we live our identity in social life. You are emotional, compassionate, stingy, generous, angry, maybe impatient, maybe jealous. The way you live your identity shows your personality.
What kind of woman are you, what kind of man are you, what kind of wife, what kind of mother, what kind of father, what kind of employee, what kind of boss are you? These define your personality.
Self;
When we put others aside, all we have left is ourselves.
So how do we get along with “ourselves”?
During the pandemic process, our identity has been disabled in our personality. And most people were left “on their own” more than ever before. For some, this situation brought awareness about themselves, but for many it led to unbearable situations: there were thousands of people who fell into depression, had panic attacks, had anxiety disorders.
How did you relate to yourself so far? How long can you tolerate being by yourself without doing anything, eating, drinking, socializing, talking, or moving? A person eats, drinks, works, produces and socializes in order not to be alone with himself.
Because being alone with yourself feels lonely. At this moment, a situation arises that worries you, tires you, frightens you, and disturbs you. Your response to that state, that feeling, that thought is very important. One finds the truth in that loneliness. In that state, people who tolerate themselves, believe in themselves, love themselves, and are really good with themselves.
If you can’t relate to yourself in this life, you can’t have a healthy relationship with someone else.
If you’re someone who gets angry with himself when he’s alone with himself, you’ll likely have people in your life who will be angry with you. Likewise, if you don’t care about yourself, if you value you, you will bring people into your life who value you. If you are good with yourself, it means you can look at life better. Every living being has trouble more or less. But if we have a problem such as worrying, everything that happens to us, that we experience, feels like a problem.
Now, after all this, if you look inside yourself again, how is your relationship with yourself?
In order for that loneliness to become bearable and livable, it is necessary to “love the person in the core”. So how will you do this?
By embellishing, strengthening, beautifying, rewarding, eating and drinking?
All of these are important, but here’s what you need to do on your journey to your core;
Ask yourself this question when you wake up every morning for a month
“What do I do today that I love myself?” You do what you are used to routinely every day, but you never ask, what if I loved myself? The answer may not come right away, but it will come in time. This is the question you ask your subconscious mind, and in time, the answer begins to come from the subconscious. It might sound like this; If I don’t drink tobacco today, I will love myself, if I read two pages, I will love myself, if I take a walk, I will love myself. I don’t know what your brain will answer this question, but it doesn’t matter if it is big or small, but it will definitely give you suggestions for you to love yourself. Ask this question for a month, every morning and an action came to your mind and you did it during the day. In the evening your brain will remind you of this yes I did it, I did it because I love myself. As soon as you repeat this, you will find that you start to love yourself in an interesting way. Our greatest shortcoming is our inability to love ourselves. We always want others to notice, value and love. We always invest so that others will love us, but as long as we do not love ourselves, we will not be satisfied if everyone loves us.
In order to love yourself, it is necessary to separate from identity and personality and fall into that loneliness to the core self. Then a person realizes whether he loves himself or not. After asking this question every day, it becomes a habit after a while and you see that your relationship with yourself has improved. When a person begins to love all kinds of states, he turns into a habit and the habit is permanent.
Your identity may be shaken; war happens, earthquake happens, people you love go, your job goes, identity is shattered,
There will be serious problems in your life, separation will occur, financial difficulties will occur, the personality will crumble. All you have left is yourself. If you are on good terms with “yourself”, even if you are in a dungeon, you will be peaceful like Yusuf. Being alone with yourself is called maturation.
From the subconscious comes restlessness, unhappiness comes. It is the way you speak to your subconscious mind. talk to yourself. If you are on good terms with yourself, your identity and personality will also become stronger and begin to change.
So, as I conclude my article, I ask again, how is your relationship with “yourself”?
