I WANT MY WIFE BACK! If you say, I wanted to know; Forgiveness will not happen overnight.
While a illicit affair often indicates underlying problems in your marriage, you are entirely responsible for your choices and actions.
First ask yourself, “Is our relationship worth saving?” Start by asking.
If you think it’s worth it, you should put aside all excuses and take 100 percent responsibility. When you feel ready to accept everything and move on, be willing to respond to your partner about what happened. If you don’t give honest answers to your partner about your feelings and what happened, there will be no recovery.
“Only true regret heals.”
In order to increase trust in the relationship, the cheater is expected to be honest in all areas of life from now on. Trust is not automatically restored because infidelity has been abandoned or suspended for a certain period of time. Be accountable in all situations (about expenses, trips, problems at work, social interactions, etc.), telling the truth without fear, even if it hurts sometimes. I think that’s the sentence I’m looking for, “to tell the truth with meticulous honesty”.
NO More Lies. NO Secrets…
This is neither an easy nor a fun process. Building trust will take time and great effort. Even white lies are forbidden, and if your spouse catches you in a lie about taking out the trash, he will think of it as equal to other lies and create a crisis environment. The only way to speed up the process is to be transparent about everything (phone, social media passwords, accessibility, etc.).
FULL HONESTY is not easy…
Honesty is more in actions than words. You should completely cut off all contact with the other woman or man. If you have to communicate, you should share it with your partner. If he learns by his own efforts, everything can be reversed. All progress is lost.
It is not enough to confess and apologize for betrayal. Be sincere. Disorders can last for months or even years at frequent intervals. Although your spouse may seem to have the last word, the decision is yours, as is the relationship…
OK? Continue?
If the answer is CONTINUE; make your spouse feel that he is valuable, be in touch with him. Own your relationship in a calm and focused way. Mute the outside world. Make sure your partner is sure of your sincerity, make eye contact, use positive tone of voice and body language. It’s easy to assume that infidelity will end the relationship. While recovery is possible, restructuring for a healthy relationship is difficult. Spouses can stay together, but have trouble mending broken trust.
When will it be fixed? It is difficult to give a time for this. However, I can say that a long and bumpy road awaits you.
REMEMBER! Relationships often end because of continued selfishness and unreliability, rather than infidelity.
We first try to communicate with couples who come with infidelity. I think good communication definitely helps couples. Couples can restructure their relationships by better understanding who they are and what they expect from the relationship.
In order to reactivate the relationship dynamics, eager couples need to know that they can still have a HAPPY RELATIONSHIP after infidelity.
