LOVE GAMES
Good communication within the family positively affects the mental health of family members. It increases motivation and enables family members to be more in harmony in their daily lives. Fast living conditions, long working hours, big city stress, traffic and similar daily hustle and bustle inevitably affect our family relationships negatively. Especially if both spouses are working, they come home tired and everyone withdraws into their own world. This situation sometimes causes misconceptions that we have lost our interest and love. Gradually, the lack of communication within the family begins and the place where we should feel the happiest, most peaceful and safest suddenly becomes a frequent destination where we only meet our basic needs. Our spouse becomes our roommate. The person who excites us when we just meet becomes ordinary in our eyes and boils away in the hustle and bustle of daily life. There is love again, but dopamine, which makes us feel joyful, connected and secure in our lives; endorphins, which make us feel cheerful and positive, are lacking. This causes the spouses to feel unhappy, bored, stressed and tense.
Well, in order to get rid of this situation and return to the old days from time to time, what should we do, how should we behave, how to beautify and enrich our relations with our spouse, to make us feel more peaceful, pleasant and connected to life.
1- Direct all your attention to him
When you’re together, put your cell phones aside, quiet your mind, postpone the to-do list for a while, and focus completely on each other. Be there and in the moment. When communicating with each other, make eye contact and really listen to each other. Silence the voices running through your mind at that moment. Listen to all the details your spouse has told you, not just the parts that concern you. As you listen, direct all your attention to your partner.
2-Get out of your routine
On an evening that your spouse never expected, instead of meeting him in home clothes, wear his favorite clothes, greet him with a dinner outside of the routine and nice music in the background. Hug him tight and look into his eyes and tell him you miss him so much. Declare your love again. And chat while you eat. The topic of conversation; Let it be why you are happy to be with each other, rather than what you did at your workplace that day. Why did you fall in love with each other when you first met? Laugh and remember the funny moments you had together. Raise your endorphin levels.
3-Make an appointment
Make time for each other outside of work and organize appointments as if you were meeting with a new acquaintance. Go to the movies together. Go to the concert. Go to activities that you enjoy doing before and that you can’t spare time for with the hustle and bustle of daily routine.
4-Learn each other’s love language
Which of the 5 love languages does your partner have? If she likes to be acknowledged, then praise her behavior and achievements, praise her, say words of encouragement. Find hobbies you enjoy doing together. The purpose here is to do something together, to spend quality time. Buy each other small gifts. The important thing is not the material value, but to show your spouse that you think of him. Do things you think she would like you to do. Every person likes to hear and feel that they are loved, look into your partner’s eyes and tell him that you love him very much. Hug tight. Most people do not feel loved without physical contact, and physical contact is the most effective way to show love.
5-Care about sexuality
One of the basic bonds that make up marriage is sexual life. A happy sexual life is one of the most important elements of family happiness. In long-term relationships and marriages, the momentum in sexuality, which is frequently experienced at first, starts to slowly decrease and after a while it either disappears or decreases considerably. This too has a solution. If there is no physiological problem, you can slowly increase this momentum by learning the beautiful art of making love, by relaxing with small love games, fantasy models, breathing exercises from time to time. But the most important thing is to increase the number of pleasant moments, rather than the number of sexual intercourse with your spouse.
Don’t let the monotonous life swallow your love and togetherness!
