In relationships that start with love and passion, in the first years, sexuality is in a state of self-flowing energy without the need for an additional motivation tool, but over time, decreases and blockages can be seen in this energy. Naturally, one of the problems experienced by couples is the decrease in sexual desire.
The first step in solving sexual problems is for couples to talk about their anxiety and fears, disturbing situations, their wishes in a precise and clear language, and to share their sexual expectations and fantasies with their partners. For this, it is important for people to know themselves well and explore their sexual brains. If there is no serious pathology behind the sexual reluctance, most likely the reason may be that the person is not aware of his sexual fantasies and sexual desires.
Periodically reviewing the relationship and discussing its faulty aspects is very important for relationship management and health. In long-term relationships, couples have intensive work schedules, basic and social needs of children, housework, time to be spared for virtual and individual social relationships. Since they have a schedule, they may neglect their special needs such as spending time alone from time to time. However, even if it is just ten minutes a day, it is a good investment for couples to stay alone, share their feelings and thoughts and spend meaningful time in the relationship. This is not a private time, such as bills or household problems. Topics such as the common hobbies, feelings and thoughts of the couples, and an interesting article they read that day, for example, can be discussed. This reinforces the intimacy.
From time to time, couples can hold family meetings with each other to evaluate their relationship romantically, intellectually and sexually. Weak points in the relationship can be identified and solutions can be discussed. In cases where they cannot cope with these problems, professional help can be discussed and help can be obtained if necessary.
One way to show and protect love is to express it sexually. Sexual appointments can be scheduled for this. Since women can take longer to prepare for sex than men, these dates can be made more passionate by means of small touches, love messages and erotic messages during the day. .In these dates, fantasies involving sexual creativity such as love games can be used. Using imagination and being open to innovations in sexuality can be effective in breaking the routine.
Another important issue in long relationships is the continuation of love and respect. Love and respect also contribute to the sexual intimacy of couples and reserves the right to freely request and refuse. This allows couples to express themselves comfortably.
Couples who can appeal to each other’s brains also have more intense sexual desires. Joint intellectual activities such as taking part in a joint project or planning a vacation together, going to the theater or cinema and then chatting about this activity can contribute to this.
Recently, one of the couples’s addiction to porn is another obstacle to a healthy sexual life for couples. If one of the couples gives all their sexual energy to this type of activity instead of having sex together, it can have a devastating outcome for the relationship. The erotic movies they will watch and the shares that both couples approve of may be healthier.
The fate of some of the long marriages may sometimes be that they end in a syndrome called an empty nest. This is a situation where the couple is left alone with their children growing up and leaving the house. This is a situation where the couple is left alone. If the couples know in advance and are prepared for this situation, they can overcome the crisis in a healthier way. For some couples, the spring of their love really begins in this period. In this period, when taboos and myths about elderly sexuality are also debunked, it can be experienced as a pleasant period due to the decrease in responsibilities and the absence of unwanted reproduction. It can be perceived as a boring and suffocating period for couples who do not have any investment. For this reason, couples should keep all other members, including children, out of their relationships when necessary, and give each other the necessary importance and time.
As a result, it is not very likely to predict the direction that relationships and sexual life will take when it is just left to its own course. Marriage and relationships can become more manageable with learnable methods.
