1- Inappropriate and not useful, useless.
2- Disobedient, not behaving well, reluctant to do what is forbidden (child), mischievous
The above definitions are taken from the dictionary prepared for primary schools of TURKISH LANGUAGE INSTITUTION.
I wanted to draw the attention of people who call children “naughty” here. Maybe we label them negatively, saying NICE to children who have been active with a habit of years. It has become such a common, ordinary word that we do not even think of. A child who is qualified in this way has already adopted that concept. He will do the behaviors required by the concept. As he gets older, he will have a negative judgment such as “I am a person who does not benefit anyone, not even myself”.
Today, there is an understandable increase in awareness of the value that should be given to our children. With this happy development, families can find solutions for their most valuable assets, which they describe as HASARI and Naughty.
Maybe they are the reason why their children are this way. By collaborating with experts, they can learn new behavior and communication styles. Or the child has physical, motor or psychiatric problems. What is needed can be done.
These children can be said to be “my child is a little active”. However, the causes of its hyperactivity should be investigated. The diagnosis of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder is one of the first things that come to mind. However, the first thing to do is to determine how the child is spending the day.
Daily life planning, if the child does not attend an educational institution, is not a subject that is emphasized too much by the families. While the family and parents continue their daily lives, the child grows up with them. This is the general approach. Parents continue their social lives.
How will their children be fed? Will he be able to get enough from all food groups? Or is it practical to prepare, or ready-made foods are considered for the child? Will ready-made fruit juice be given to fruit food because it is easy? Is there an environment where they can load calories and consume energy?
Do we expect them to be submissive to their parents and to be inactive in any social area? Quiet wait!, stop!, don’t!, don’t throw!, don’t hold!, don’t run! Are we in a behavior where ultimatums are given?
What is our child’s need for sleep? Can we catch the same routine every day on average? The need for sleep for long periods in infancy is such that lunch breaks are generally needed in the preschool period. Children at the age of 5-6 who get deep and adequate sleep at night may not need it. It is also one of the most important factors to start the night’s sleep before it is too late. Even if there is no sleep, it should be in calmed time periods in daily life.
One of the parents’ approach is “my child is very smart, he never stops for him”. In this way, all negative attitudes of the child are tolerated and behavioral disorders become established in the child. As the child’s age grows, it becomes unmanageable. There are difficulties and adaptation problems in the school process.
Pedagogues are people who will support the family in planning their child’s day and it is important to get timely support. In the good and successful way of learning activities; It is of great importance that all physical needs are met in a timely and quality manner. In addition, parent-child communication is greatly damaged by the outbursts.
ÖZNUR SİMAV-PEDAGOG
EXPERT- FAMILY COUNSELOR- CONSULTANT TEACHER
