“My colleague Y said, ‘Anyway, X will listen to me.’ she tells me her problem. However, at that moment, I do not want to listen to his problems because I know that he will not listen to me when I have a problem. But I can’t say no, and I really sit down and listen to my colleague’s concerns. Then I start to get angry with myself.”
These sentences may sound familiar to you. Most of the time, we have difficulty saying ‘NO’ in order not to offend the other party or because we care too much about the other party’s thoughts about us.
In such cases, after a while, we can start to feel anger both against the person in front of us and against ourselves. This anger we feel can not only reduce our tolerance for life, but also harm our relationships.
So what can we do in such situations?
In such cases, we ourselves;
“When do I have trouble saying no?”
“Was there ever a time when I didn’t have trouble saying no? When, where and with whom?”
“What happened the last time I said no?”
“Who do I have trouble saying no to?” You can ask questions and gain awareness of this situation by thinking about the answers, or you can get support from an expert on this subject.
