How Should Sexuality Be in Marriage?
Sexuality is among the subjects that occupy a very large area in the life of a living thing. Mankind has written and researched millions of articles on this subject. In fact, what we want is to have a rational knowledge of the question of what should be the right sexuality and our sexual taboos. Many different perspectives have articles on the concept of sexuality in line with their own approach. This issue has been a very important focal point from a religious, scientific and cultural point of view. So, let’s examine what psychologists and psychology say about marriage and sexuality.
The first thing a person should learn about sexuality is information about their own body. The more accurate and healthy this information is, the healthier the sexual life of the individual will be. Individuals need to know their own body. It is very important to have enough knowledge to have at least an idea about why various situations related to sexuality may occur.
When talking about sexuality in marriage, the most common complaints that come to mind are vaginismus, impotence, sexual reluctance, premature ejaculation. If an individual has sufficient sexual information about his/her own body, he/she will not have any difficulty in explaining these situations. By focusing directly on the solution of the problems that cause these complaints, he will try to get rid of the troubled situation he is in and will contact a psychologist to get “sexual therapy” help.
The individual who has sufficient sexual knowledge about his own body should also have sufficient knowledge about his partner’s body. For example, women suffering from vaginismus experience great pain during the attempt to have sexual intercourse. The attempt of the penis to enter the vagina causes indescribable pain for them. An unconscious man may approach his partner with vaginismus with anger. He insults his wife and maybe even resorts to violence. This sexually dissatisfied man may even lose his sexual desire for his wife due to this unconsciousness and may even become inclined to cheat. The causes of vaginismus complaints should be learned thoroughly, it will be the healthiest decision for couples to approach each other with respect and support and find a solution.
Likewise, unconscious feelings such as performance anxiety, excessive excitement, sexual inexperience and guilt can be among the causes of premature ejaculation. If a woman sees her partner ejaculating during or just before sexual intercourse, she should not regard him as bad or inadequate. There is almost 100% cure for all these sexual complaints, according to the psychologist’s opinion. The couple who want their sexual life to be satisfying can achieve victory by working together in the face of these difficulties.
As we have seen, the concepts of sexuality and making love are areas where both parties have equal duties. If couples want to have a satisfying sex life, they need to treat each other with respect about marital sexual issues that are hindering them. Individuals should not be afraid to seek the help of a psychologist against sexual problems they may encounter. In this way, the beautiful union we desire will be even more accessible.
Psychologist Oguz Demir
