I don’t want a divorce!
- I’m not ready for a divorce!
- I have children!
- What awaits me?
- What if I can’t be happy?
- What if my decision was wrong?
- What if I regret?
- What if being divorced negatively affects my life socially?
- What if I can’t get by financially?
- What if I get too worn out in the process?
- What if my family and friends don’t support me?
- What if I’m alone?
- I can never love again!
- I can never marry again!
- What if my ex doesn’t support me and my child when I get divorced?
- I have a good and bad order, I don’t want it to be broken.
- How do I get used to my new layout?
- I’m afraid of losing myself when I get divorced.
NOW LET’S IMAGINE ALL THAT WE THOUGHT WHEN WE MARRIED
- I don’t want to get married!
- I’m not ready to get married!
- What awaits me?
- What if I can’t be happy?
- What if my decision was wrong?
- What if I regret?
- Does being married negatively affect my life socially?
- What if I can’t get by financially?
- What if I get very worn out during the engagement, wedding association process?
- What if my family and friends don’t support me?
- What if I’m more alone even though I’m married?
- Is it the right person?
- I had a good and bad order, how do I get used to the new one?
- I’m afraid to stop being myself when I get married.
- Is it the right time to get married?
- I’m in a big family, how should I adjust my distance with these people?
- …
WE ARE NOT FEAR OF MARRIING BUT WE ARE Afraid of Divorce
- Appropriate to be realized (what society wants and expects)
- which is “good” for me
- Complementing the missing “me”
- adding value to my
- making me family
- Since it is a constructive, unifying, complementary and acceptable structure.
- ‘Cause it keeps me from missing
- It doesn’t feel like something to be afraid of, worried about, or thought about.
On top of that, people have been getting married since the beginning of their existence… (couple, reproduce, change spouses, choose spouses, become families, become monogamous, polygamous, choose from different tribes, choose relatives…) So everyone has done this!
As a matter of fact, DIVORCE has existed since the history of humanity!!!
- Leaving your partner, finding a new partner, neglecting your partner, ignoring your partner, running away, moving… isn’t it a kind of divorce?
- There was divorce before the enactment of the civil laws, and there was still after.
- The fact that divorce has destroyed what is socially acceptable and sacred
- With feelings of worthlessness, unloved
- With the loss-mourning process
- demolish
- With the feeling of loss, fragmentation, disintegration
- With your rank down
- It may be related to the fact that it is a process that goes with hundreds of times the worries that are not heard while getting married.
AS A RESULT;
Divorce may not be as scary as marriage
Divorce can be scarier than marriage
Marriage may not be as scary as divorce
Marriage can be just as scary as divorce.
Both are natural processes;
- concerns
- fears
- effort to adapt
- unknowns
- Although there are disagreements…
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