5 LANGUAGES OF LOVE
Famous Author Gary Chapman said about love: “In the final scene of the Humanity play, you will have three characters, which are faith, hope and love. But the most important of these is love.”
Having love and living with love are definitely one of the most important factors that make people happier. Gary Chapman wrote the book “The 5 Love Languages” in 1922. In this book, he explained that love has different languages and that not every person speaks the same love language.
Although speaking different languages may seem challenging at first glance, on the contrary, it is a factor that keeps the relationship dynamics intact. Your relationships will be solidified, especially if you discover that you and your loved one can act in different languages.
What are the 5 love languages?
1- Affirming Sentences
2- Quality Time
3- Receiving / Giving Gifts
4- Service Behaviors
5- Physical Proximity
Confirming Sentences:
People whose love language is affirmative sentences want to hear positive sentences from their loved ones. They also reflect their own love language by approaching the person close to them with positive sentences. Expressions of appreciation and compliments are like bridges that convey love. Compliments, affirmations, gentle and kind sentences make the person feel love.
There are 3 types of affirmative sentences: words of encouragement, words of kindness, and words of encouragement.
For example, if you want to be encouraging and approving to people whose love language is affirmative sentences, you can say words to help them develop their interests. You can use the sentence “Your food is delicious, you are very talented at this” as both an affirmative and an encouraging sentence.
Your tone of voice is very important for saying kind words. Kind words spoken in a soft and gentle way can make a person very happy. “I love you.” The sentence is an affectionate and affirming one.
The words of request are very important for people whose love language is affirmative sentences. If you express your wishes in a very soft tone with pleading sentences, the person can trust your sincerity in return and your closeness can be strengthened.
Quality / Skilled Time:
People who speak the language of quality time direct their attention to their relatives during the time they spend. They want to put their other affairs aside and spend all their time with their loved ones. The focus is on the other person rather than the physical proximity of the two bodies. People who speak this language also want to spend time with their relatives mentally. Emotions, experiences, thoughts are shared in a quality communication.
Making and maintaining eye contact makes you feel like you are being listened to, important to me right now.
There are many activities you can do with people who feel their love with the quality time they spend.
Take walks with conversation
go on a date
Capturing moments where you can pay attention to each other without constantly looking at the phone feeds and magnifies love.
Buy a gift:
People whose love language is to receive gifts are happy by receiving or giving gifts. Because for these people, a gift is a sign of effort. When choosing a gift, it is thought, researched and dealt with. But the price of the gift is not important for those who speak this language, thoughtful and spiritual gifts are enough to make them happy. Being by your side in difficult times can be a very nice gift for those whose love language is a gift.
The same can be said for gift giving. These people convey their love by giving gifts to their relatives.
You can give small gifts to your relatives who speak the language of receiving gifts;
take a flower with you
Receiving gifts that will be remembered for longevity
Like leaving little notes on your stuff.
Service Behaviors:
People are surrounded by work that needs to be done in their lives. People with the language of service work to help their relatives and relieve their burden. At the same time, they examine the behavior of their relatives for them. It is enough to help them feel loved, to be sharing.
Today, serving for love can sometimes be perceived as doing a duty. Thus, service behaviors reduce the feeling of happiness. However, people whose love language is service expect and do good behavior from people outside of their responsibilities. For example;
Preparing a nice dinner for your relative
Making coffee or tea while working
Offering to help them do their job is very affectionate behavior for those with a language of service behavior.
Physical Proximity:
Touching and being touched may be a need, but people whose love language is intimacy also enjoy touch. Although sexuality is also a factor, the real intimacy is showing love with body language. Because physical contact is a very powerful channel to transmit love.
holding hands
Hug
Small kisses are powerful transmitters of affection for those who speak the language of physical intimacy.
