At first, being kind, helpful, and generous may seem positive. But when the person puts all their effort into making sure that other people’s expectations are met, those around you will begin to underestimate their kindness and efforts, without even realizing that they are taking advantage of the person. This can cause chronic fatigue syndrome in the person after a point. Because the person suppresses their emotions, they may experience serious psychological disorders such as depression, anxiety, anger and burnout syndrome.
How Do You Know You Have a Self-Sacrifice Chart?
• If you think it is selfish to put your own needs before the needs of others,
• If people often turn to you for help and advice,
• If you are too focused on others to express your needs and feelings,
• If you tend to think of others more than yourself,
• If you give up everything when someone close to you needs you,
• If refusing requests bothers you,
• If you receive less than you give to others,
• If you often feel overwhelmed or tired from doing things for others,
We can say that you have the Self-Sacrifice Chart.
WHAT SHOULD WE DO?
- Learn to Value Yourself
Constantly making sacrifices makes you not know what your needs and desires are, and you feel worthless.
valuing yourself; It starts with acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses and using them to your advantage.
We are all human and of course we will make mistakes. As long as we are honest with ourselves and learn from our mistakes, we can keep moving forward.
- Wonder Who You Are
For most of your life, you have been the person “others want you to be”. This made you feel dependent on others and insecure. In order to understand who you really are, instead of accepting the opinions of others, ask yourself: “Who am I really, what do I really want, what do I aim for in this life, regardless of what others say to me, and what are my internal and external resources that I need to show to achieve this goal? ”
- You Remind Yourself You Can’t Make Everyone Happy
You felt a lot of pressure as you took too much responsibility on yourself to try to make sure that the people around you were always happy. The thing is, you can’t control how others experience life. You can only be responsible for your own actions and intentions. Instead of trying to control other people’s perceptions, start learning to focus most of your time and energy on living in a way that reflects your personal values.
- Chat with Your Inner Critic
Pay attention to what your inner critic says about you. What if some of the things you believe about yourself aren’t really true? How would your life be different if you spoke with encouragement rather than constantly criticizing yourself? One of the best ways to question the critical thoughts in your head and translate them into a more useful language is to write a dialogue with your inner critic in your diary.
- Feel All Your Emotions And Share It
Don’t try to suppress your emotions, any emotion you suppress will come out in unexpected ways.
Feeling and sharing your feelings does not distance you from those around you, on the contrary, you increase your compassion for others.
- Keep a Journal
Reserve the last three lines of the page for the small list. List the things you are grateful for, the evidence that you are loved, the ways you want to do what you want to do and the kind of person you want to be.
Finally; You don’t have to live within the altruism scheme. But jumping into focusing directly on yourself isn’t easy either. As you take steps to change, ask yourself “WHAT WOULD I DO IF I WAS NOT THE SUCCESSFUL MAN? ”
