You have lost control at your workplace or at home, you can no longer stand anything or anyone, you are either at a level that will harm the first thing you come across, either animate or inanimate, or you can’t hold yourself back and..
The organism tends to stay in the best, most suitable balance for itself. In order to achieve and maintain this balance, there are innate or acquired needs, drives, motives and adaptation mechanisms within the organism. If the other person does not give the reaction you expect and does not meet your current needs, you may activate your impulses and have difficulty controlling your impulses.
The reaction given to a negative event (or a person) is anger, irritability (emotional dimension) Aggression; It includes all behaviors that intend to harm others physically and psychologically. (behavioral dimension) Aggression is closely related to frustration. However; The feeling of frustration does not always lead to aggression. While an event (or situation) that hinders you may anger you, it may not anger you at all. Different reactions to frustration can occur. Some people withdraw when they are blocked and wait for help, while others manage to stay away from the event (or person) they are blocked. Persons displaying aggressive behavior; They are people who have previously learned aggressive behavior as a way of coping with frustration or anger. Aggression is a learned behavior that has been shown to many different stimuli. Children who have witnessed domestic violence have learned aggressive behavior, and when they encounter a stimulus that reveals their anger, they can turn these actions into aggressive behaviors.
Your inner voice to a person who infuriates you with a behavior or a provocative word he said while working peacefully at your workplace:
“Lets! Get up from the chair, go and put this man in his place.”
Even though it says: (remember, you have payments this month, your credit card debt is on the sixth of the month, and you actually love your job, there’s no point in risking all this for this person) you have to get your anger under control.
So how will you achieve this?
If someone is making you angry, express how you feel when you get angry and explain the event (or situation). Redefining the behavior that angered you will both relax you and enable the other person to reevaluate the event. If you are very nervous, you can delay the conversation. You must use the right communication methods. You must communicate empathetically. If you are very nervous, you can do breathing exercises. “I will not let it spoil my present peace and make me unhappy today.” Engage in a positive thought process. Focusing on the negativity will increase your anger even more, causing you to act aggressively or to remain silent by withdrawing completely. Withdrawal behavior is suppressing anger, appearing as if you have never been angry, which will become very damaging to you over time.
When stressors put pressure on a person’s resilience and reduce this resilience over time, the person may be insufficient to show their ability to defend and cope with them. Situations where the integrity of the person is shaken, defenses are inadequate, inappropriate, excessive and inappropriate; that is, situations in which the person loses his/her harmony balance or resorts to pathological defenses to achieve balance begin to be interpreted as a “disorder or disease” and it is necessary to seek expert support.
Treatment: Cognitive, behavioral approaches, interpersonal therapy, supportive therapy, family therapy, pharmacotherapy are applied.
