For years, the “disease of living well and being happy” has been imposed by a serious mass of mental health professionals. Suggestions were made such as “Keep your relationship healthy”, “Love yourself”, “Don’t think about the past, don’t think about the future, focus on the moment”. However, the way of psychological and physical well-being does not pass through these suggestions.
It is not possible for everything to be healthy under all conditions. Being healthy isn’t all that healthy anyway.
“Do not blame yourself”
Blaming oneself, criticizing the self opens the door for the individual to follow and realize his essence. The individual who acts with this feeling reaches the key to maturity and growth. In other words, “a healthy person should not love himself a little bit”, so to speak.
“Rumination”
The individual will think about his past and traumas over and over again, and enter into deep rumination so that he can reconstruct his emotion-cognition on a healthy level. The individual will ask the questions “why, how, why” to his experiences so that he can find a “meaning” from the events he has experienced.
“Anxiety”
The individual takes action because he feels high anxiety about losing his bond. Goes on, replaces or preserves. Since the individual is anxiously attached to a “thing”, he mourns and suffers after his loss. It reflects your belonging and sense of oneness with that “thing”. In the bonds established and lost, not the one who “avoids” but the “anxious” who completes his grief and pain, but completes himself.
When a person’s right to live in pain, to feel anxiety, to think brooding is taken away, happiness becomes dull. True happiness becomes possible only in the broken.
At this point, the concept of “psychotherapy” and variables such as “self-awareness”, “self-compassion” and “self-acceptance” were explained as if they were concepts with flowers and insects. No, on the contrary, these concepts represent the “unrest” in the individual.
Psychotherapy and “well-being” should be uncomfortable or even painful.
