Preschool education is the first step of socialization and separation from home and parents for children. For a child starting nursery school, this process can be more difficult than you think.
The child, who is accustomed to staying at home with his parents, grandparents or caregivers, finds himself in a different environment when he starts daycare.
Home is the safest place for children, as it is for everyone. The child wakes up at any time at home, plays with the toy he wants at any time, most of the time he does not collect his toys, there are adults who do this for him. He uses every area of the house as he wishes.
However, when he starts kindergarten, this comfort is replaced by certain rules and boundaries. This is why the child’s reactions are already there. Well, why children do not want to go to kindergarten, here are some reasons:
A new environment enters the child’s life, this environment cannot be adjusted according to the child, the child must adjust himself according to the environment.
A new authority, the teacher, enters the child’s life. Although the teacher approaches him with love and affection, he expects him to follow certain rules. Getting used to this situation also requires a process for the child.
10-15 different children come into the life of a child who is used to living like the master of the house in the life of a single child. These children, who are in their own age group, want whatever they want, just like him, and an ego war begins between the children.
The child, who is sent to daycare in the morning due to the working of the parents, is taken to the nursery in the evening, the meal and post-meal routine work comes early, and the child starts to refuse to go to the nursery because he sees his parents little and misses them.
If the child was taken care of by grandparents such as grandparents before and they are not willing to go to day care center, they support the child by saying “Don’t let the child cry, I’ll take care of the child” whenever the child has trouble going to the nursery.
If your child has just started kindergarten and is having difficulty going, it would be useful to pay attention to these.
Let your child know that you have taken the decision about starting nursery school together as parents, and do not discuss this issue with him/her as “He/she should go to kindergarten or not”.
Try to control the reactions of grandparents such as grandparents, grandparents, which may negatively affect the process.
Try to present your child’s daycare as a pleasure, not an obligation.
Do not frighten the teacher, on the contrary, in the process of starting kindergarten, children become attached to their teachers before other children. Nursery is the process of a child’s secure separation from parents and secure attachment to the teacher.
Don’t let your child cry from your lap at the door of the nursery. This behavior reduces the children’s trust in you and the teacher, and can have a traumatic effect on their future life.
Let him take any toys or objects that belong to him to the nursery when he leaves the house. This makes him feel more secure.
When you come home in the evening, spend more time with your child, feed him emotionally, because he hasn’t seen you and missed you all day, rather than doing housework or private chores.
If you are a working parent during the daycare start-up phase, try to adjust your employment situation. It will be beneficial for you to stay at the nursery with your child for a few days and wait for him. Do not expect your child to go to kindergarten without any problems on the first day and continue without any problems in the following days. He will react. Try to solve his reactions in cooperation with the nursery management and teacher.
If these reactions are long-lasting, accompanied by night waking, crying, tics, behavior and adaptation problems, it may be beneficial to seek expert support.
